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Comment by Brett Bowman on March 4, 2018 at 1:19pm

I think that your dad may have been experiencing some shock. It's hard to make good decisions at such a time, but it was risky for him to not tell you. There was always a chance that you could find out secondhand. I'm not assigning blame. I just regret that you found out in such a way.

Comment by Jessica Laird on March 4, 2018 at 1:13pm

Brett- my dad called at midnight a bunch of times. So i called him back and he said he was trying to get intouch with my mom .This phone call was before i saw facebook .I thought it was weird he called me late at night. That is not like him but he never mentioned my mom passed. Then when i saw the post on facebook i called him and he said he was going to tell me when i came back to tampa. That night i was mad at him but later own i realized he did not want to ruin my time with my fiance. Then 3 days later a voice message showed up that my grand father called that night. I dont know why i did not show up. I just wish my uncle would of made sure i knew before he posted . My aunt apologized for my uncle. For posting my uncle still has not apologized. But thats usually what i uncle will do not take responsibility .

Comment by Brett Bowman on March 4, 2018 at 1:11pm

Theresa, it is still so hard. I moved close by to my mom's house. I have been cleaning it out little by little. The emptier that house becomes, the more I realize that my mom is not there. There were so many things that have been amassed over 30 years. I have to let so much go. We are having a service come in tomorrow to haul away what's left. Every time that I go back there and rummage through things I find something that brings back flood of memories. It's hard sitting in that house by myself, listening to the wind, like echoes of the past. The next time I go back there the house will be completely empty. I don't want to go back but I have to. Every time I leave, I look at the window and just imagine that my mom is waving goodbye to me for the last time. It's heartbreaking.

Jessica, you found out in about as horrible a way as I can imagine, but believe me when I tell you, there is no good way. It all hurts badly. I don't know what to tell you. That memory will be with you for the rest of your life. My hope is that one day you will be able to focus almost solely on the love you shared.

Comment by Brett Bowman on March 4, 2018 at 1:02pm

I'm very surprised that no one called you. Maybe your uncle assumed  that you already knew? Again, I am so sorry.

Comment by Jessica Laird on March 4, 2018 at 8:58am

Theresa- my mom had lupus but it was not affecting her organs. It would cause her legs and knees to swell. She had a seizure disorder but they were under control. There was no signs she was going to pass . 6 days before she passed I dropped my dog off for her to baby sit because i was helping my fiance out in Tallahassee . I found out she died while I was still in Tallahassee .

Comment by Theresa on March 4, 2018 at 6:30am

Brett, Bluebell, and everyone how are you holding up?

Brett it is our third year and Bluebell you just crossed your first.

Comment by Theresa on March 4, 2018 at 6:29am

Jessica, I am so sorry, you found a great group of people here.

To find out through a post is upsetting.

Was you mom ill?

Comment by Jessica Laird on March 4, 2018 at 12:39am

I cant wait until i can actually get a good nights rest. Im up again and cant sleep .

Comment by Jessica Laird on March 4, 2018 at 12:37am

Brett- thank you . 

Comment by Brett Bowman on March 3, 2018 at 11:53pm

Jessica, that is beyond horrible. I am so sorry.

Jennifer, I think that my story (our story) is probably all too common.

My prayers are with both of you.

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