Lost my life long friend, no one else seems to care.

Hi,

My long time friend died from complications of diabetes. I went to visit him and found him sitting in his recliner, I assumed he was asleep but he was dead. It was the most horrifying moment in my life. His pain neuropathy kept him at home. Only a few people would go to see him.

His brother lives in Florida and for what ever reason couldn't make the trip back to PA for 2 weeks. He called a few friends and had them go to Michael's home and clean it out. I didn't go I just couldn't go back there it was only 5 days after I found him. I was told that they threw much of his things away and the rest was just stuffed in boxes and thrown in his truck. At least they thought to donate the furniture.

When his brother finally made it he just picked up Michael's remains got in Michael's truck and drove home. I didn't even know he was in PA.

There wasn't a funeral, memorial or even an obituary. I was and still devastated by that level of disrespect.

It seems like everyone else moved on but I just can't. The trauma of seeing him like that and the grief of losing him are just to much to bare.

I just want someone to acknowledge that he was a good man and will be missed.

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Permalink Reply by Lynn Boyd on March 28, 2016 at 9:34pm
So sorry for your loss, he obviously meant a great deal to you. You can't control how anyone else may or may not remember him, but you can certainly make your own memorial or remembrance of him. Light a candle, release a balloon with a message, make a donation in his name. It's a shame how the others are treating his memory, but he is fortunate to have you to care about his memory. Keep your relationship with him alive in your heart by honoring his life and memory in your own way. *hugs*
Permalink Reply by Lisa Maria DeMatto- Wysong on March 28, 2016 at 10:16pm

Thanks for your kind words, I did make a memorial web page for him on the Your Tribute site. It made me feel good.

when I talked to his brother he said that he is going to have a big party this summer for Michael. I guess I'll wait and see.

When when we were younger everyone went to Michael's house (well his parents home) and he had many friends. I guess as you get older you to busy with your own stuff.

Thanks again for your kindness, take care of yourself also. 

:)

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