Dear Helder,

     I am so sorry to hear how you don't feel that your ccan talk about your grief to your friends. If there is anytime we truly need friends, it is when we are grieving. (Proverbs 17:17) "A true friend shows love at all times, And is a brother who is born for times of distress." Shared troubles can be much easier to bear. English essayist Francis Bacon wrote that for those without true friends, “the world is but a wilderness.” Having true friends—and being a good friend—can make life more bearable for you; it can be beautiful and satisfying.
     Confiding in a loved one or in a trusted counselor can help us get a grip on negative feelings and put them out of the way before they overwhelm us. Speaking with others can help us to see things from a balanced, positive viewpoint. “Talking things out helps a lot,” admits Simone. “You need to tell someone how you’re feeling. Often just getting it out is all that’s needed.” Doing so will help you experience the truthfulness of the proverb that says: “Anxious care in the heart of a man is what will cause it to bow down, but the good word is what makes it rejoice.”—Proverbs 12:25.
     I am glad to see that you have come to this site and feel safe to talk. I just want you to know that I am happy to listen anytime and I will never turn a hardened ear or heart to you. Please contact me anytime. . .

Brenda