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Permalink Reply by Christi Sparks on February 1, 2012 at 7:10pm

I'm not exactly sure of the advice part, but I want you to know that you are not alone in the mood swings and short temper. When my fiance passed away I was the same way. At first it was all the time, but now it's usually when I'm really missing my Jesse. I hate the cliche time heals all wounds because it doesn't feel that way, but time helps with the moodiness. You have to grieve. I've been told that the moodiness was my way of grieving by my therapist. Just keep your chin up, it's all going to take time.

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Permalink Reply by Wendy on February 2, 2012 at 3:38am

I thought I was the only one going through that but it seems normal. When I lost my sister, I started going through that. I realized that it wasn't just me because my husband who also adored her went through the same things as well. After my sister's divorce some years ago the 3 of us spent all of our time together because it was a tough time. We were the best of friends. Even though she found love again, we still had that closeness with her that never disappeared.

We both suffer her loss to this hour. I get irritable because I want to be close to her at least in my thoughts and when someone interrupts that or intrudes on my memories, I feel like they're separating me from her. I'm not sure how to explain except that there's a need to be left alone with my memories of her. I've also learned that if I spend too much time doing that I'm not going to make it. I need to be around people, that's why I joined this support group. I don't want to hurt anybody with my bad moods and I know I need help.

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