I find myself so lonely

I keep saying that I'm going to be ok,this n that n at the end of the day I still miss my husband, I miss him more then ever!! I can't let him go.. I keep thinking about a future but I just don't see one, I just want to see the light already, today is 6 months since that day I lost him :'(

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Permalink Reply by Mildred Barnard on December 24, 2011 at 8:40am

i know how u feel.husband gone 7 mths christmas day.it seems 2 get harder all the time.no one seems 2 understand.

Permalink Reply by Mildred Barnard on December 24, 2011 at 12:03pm

I know.my husband will b gone 7 months 2morrow(CHRISTMAS)its possed 2 get easier but hasnt so far.when i buried him everyone disappeared.we would have been married 40 yrs last month

Permalink Reply by Sandy G on December 24, 2011 at 1:16pm

Dear Adriana,

I was wondering how you were, I hadn't seen posts from you in a while.

I wish I had some magic potion for you. When it was 6 months for me, I also fet it hadn't gotten any easier 'yet'. The holidays can be especially hard. It is now 10 months and I still have good days and bad ones.

I send you hugs and love and hope you have some new good memories with your children this Christmas.

You are in my thoughts and prayers

Sandy

Permalink Reply by adriana gonzalez on December 24, 2011 at 1:42pm
@laura sorry abour ur loss, I remember myself 3 months ago,I was doing really bad,I can imagine how u are feeling right now, but I could tell you time does help with tHe healing,I still have more bad days then good ones but I thank god even for 10 minutes that I'm ok..@mildred I'm sorry for ur loss tOo , I think is going to be hard for all of us this christmas but we have to make it, we've come this far,wowww mildred that was a lifetime with ur husband...@sandy I'm glad to hear from you , I know haven't been on here for a while, but I always think about youguys,.. Merry christmas to all of you ladies, remember god only takes the best! Let's keep being strong! God bless you all
Permalink Reply by Jo swearingen on December 30, 2011 at 9:00pm
Adriana, I know how you feel, I lost my husband 3 months ago. We were married 15 years. I keep hoping that each day gets better but most days it is hard. I work full time which helps, but the nights are the worst, I get so lonely. I to hope that there is a light at the end & I will wake up and realize that this was all a dream. But I know that will not happen. Hang in there I will be thinking of you & hoping that life gets easier
Permalink Reply by Dolly Ornelas on January 2, 2012 at 8:42pm

I am new to this site and not quite sure where to post.  I lost my love Jeff on 11/15/11, we were married 29 years and together for over 30.  The loneliness is terrible and not quite sure how to carry on, I hate living by myself but don't want to move and very conflicted right now but am finding it gets a little better each day..  My new motto is one day at a time.  I spent Christmas with family but wound up very sick with the flu which might have been a good thing. I made it through New Years Eve with friends which helped tremendously.  I have also been trying slowly to sort through personal belongings, paperwork etc. but find I only can do that for short periods, there really is no rush I keep telling myself.  I went back to work about 3 weeks ago but had been scheduled off between Christmas and New Years and took the time, tomorrow it is back to work again so hoping that helps some getting back into my routine again.  I keep telling myself that time will heal, I can only hope.  Thanks for listening!

Permalink Reply by anna l. on January 2, 2012 at 10:37pm

I am so sorry for the pain you are in.  I know it well.  I also know the pain of sorting your husbands stuff.  For me it is a work in progress and I gave myself permission to do it at my own speed.  Thankfully there are no financial issues that force me to do it faster.  My husband was only ill for 2 months and from the first I knew he was terminal but up until the end prayed and hoped we could turn it around.  I miss him so much but 6 months in, I am very very grateful he suffered no more than those 2 horrible months.  Take things as slowly as you want to, only do what you are ready to do, and know you have new friends who understand here.

Permalink Reply by Dolly Ornelas on January 3, 2012 at 11:11am

Anna thank you for responding, Jeff had been ill on and off for years but the worse was the last 3 weeks when he made the decision to longer fight or get any more treatments, he was very brave right till the end and only unconscious the last 24 hours which I find a blessing since it happened so quickly.  I kept thinking up until the last day that he was going to live on for a long time even when the dr. said it would only be about 3 weeks from his last transfusion.    I am going to take things slowly, now I just need to learn how to relax I find myself going in circles when I am at home.  Back to the motto - one day at a time! 

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