Grief of our son, day by day living.

I some times feel like I am alone -- looking on the inside while others stare at me and give me that lost look. I some times think men handle grief different from women and feel that I have to find another women to listen to me. Why do I feel like I am a sombie going through the motions of living? My faith has made me strong, but lonlieness still exists. Do other mothers feel this way or am I "all about myself."

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Permalink Reply by Joan Hardin on March 20, 2011 at 3:22pm
I know how you feel. Most days I feel like I am going through the motions on auto pilot for the most part. I am surrounded by people that for the most part mean well. Some of them attempt to understand what I'm going through and the  rest just look at me with a look of pure pity. I hate the  pity look. I don't know how to say goodbye to my child that was stolen from me way too soon.
Permalink Reply by susan joanette wilson on July 1, 2011 at 1:54pm

in a year and a half i have lost two sons.  The second one lass than 2 months ago.  I  was still trying to cope with the first one when the second one happened.  I feel like i am staring in my own horror movie, sometimes surviving day to day is to much.  both were adults neither married the first one was 32 the second one was 27 and a twin.  You are not the only one I share your pain. I feel like i am being avoided. I don't want to hear I am sorry i am not looking for sympathy.  Unless you have been where we are and feel this there is no way anyone can understand this. Both were 'accidents'  i guess thats one word for it.  My oldest son was crossing the street just at dark on his bicycle. a guy in a truck with no lights on hit him.  he died of massive chst trauma. the other one was doing community service in a park.  he was on the bucket of a small john deere tractor taking a lunch break with two others when s kid in a cat slammed into the tractor and killed him. I had both cremated and have both of their ashes. i feel so very sorry for you and anyone else going through this.  may god bless you and please stay in touch   joanette

Permalink Reply by jean keenan on August 11, 2011 at 7:57pm

You are not alone I know the feeing very well. Without my faith I would not have made it through. My son has been gone for 14 years and it still seems like yesterday. My confort is in talking about my son to my friends not to talk about him is like he never existed,and he was a very big part of my life and my daughters.

I had a woman say to me it's been so long you lost your son why do you still cry? As I say until you have this happen to you heaven forbid you do not know what I am going through. I think people speak before they think
Permalink Reply by Monica Green on August 14, 2011 at 6:40pm

You are not alone.  I feel the same way. 

Monica

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