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Permalink Reply by Stefanie Parise on July 13, 2011 at 7:50pm

I'm glad you know you are not a bad person for having these thoughts. You have way more self-control than many people would in your situation. I cannot possibly imagine what it is like to go through the death of a child, but I hope that your pain will ease with time. Your story - along with countless others on here - has touched me quite a lot. I sobbed the first time I read it. I just want you to know..you're a really strong person.

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Permalink Reply by Patti Meadows on July 26, 2011 at 7:28am

Hi Starr, when I read your post, I just had to reply.  Believe me, I know your pain...although my son was killed in a single car accident, his best friend was in a car behind him and was not injured or anything, which I am glad for, but still I feel cheated.  I can understand why you would feel the way you do, but think about this:  Which would be harder to live with? A loving son who is now with our Father in heaven, or what if he had to live with what this man does?  I know if I were him, I would have rather died in the wreck than to live with what this man does.  After my son's death, I have come to realize that there are worse things than dying.  It has been 5 years for me, and I am trying to find a way to celebrate Matt's life.  We are doing things like putting his name on a memorial brick on a local walking bridge that is being restored.  Also we are considering making a donation to a local animal shelter in his name. (He loved animals).  And really, even if he & his whole family died, it wouldn't help.  Your pain would still exist.  I cannot imagine your pain in that situation, but we are all hurting on this site, and I just wanted you to know that I hope my son and your son will become friends in heaven.  Patti

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