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My Wife came to me again seeming very disappointed with my sadness. She relayed to me that I should be rejoicing that I have Her for eternity rather than being depressed that She's absent physically. I realize that my complete being is consumed by Her and I will never move on. People don't understand and I'm ok with that. Find peace. Everyone's story is beautifully different.
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Yes. She came to me as I was in trance.
I am also interested in how your wife came to you. Did you actually see and/or hear her?
My husband died 5 years ago. I will never not be sad, and if god or the universe doesn't see fit to reverse this horrible mistake it has made and restore him to me, then all I want is to die and be with him (if there is an afterlife; if not, then I still want to die and be done with this existence and this pain). Like you, I will never "move on" -- there is no moving on from this kind of loss, not for me, and it's not something I would ever want to do anyway. I also find that most people don't understand that, but what they think about this is irrelevant to me.
I do want to thank you for starting your "Lost My Spouse" thread, as that is the main place where I post on this site.
I have and will continue to chase Her from life to life. While in this life I have to find Her in other's, as we're all connected. I also have children from Her that I homeschool and tend to very closely with much reverence. You're still here for a reason. Find that reason.
Jon, Thank you and I keep wishing I could find that reason but it has eluded me. Those were the words I used pretty much from the first day after my husband died and the psychiatrists/counselors were lining up at the behest of a family member who wanted to help fix me. I told each one of them......I was looking for a reason. And no reason has emerged. He was my reason. I've pushed forward thinking I need to live. Soon it will be five years. I"m not sure that reason is the answer. And yet it is the only thing that I seek that I believe has any bearing on sticking around. I'm glad you found yours.
I'm saddened by your amount of suffering. I can't imagine if I passed and She was left to feel this suffering. I'm sorry. I wish I could be there to love you guys the way you need. You have to find a reason. It was and will always be about my Wife. I use the kids as my reason. Please find something; this site, a child who is suffering the loss of a parent or even both parents. Our pain is valuable to others as twisted as it sounds.
It's good that you have the children you share.
I appreciate your good intent, but for me, there is no reason to be here. I love my family dearly (parents, sister, brother-in-law), but that is not enough to make a life, at least not for me. My life ended the moment my husband died.
Mine too my dear. But I had to make the choice to live a life to honor Her and somehow be the man She loves. I wish I could be there for you. I feel the intensity of your suffering.
A life of Love
Bluebird,
My thoughts exactly.
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