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Permalink Reply by morgan on July 6, 2017 at 10:01pm

Richard,
I really can't be of much help. I've dug myself back into my own hole again and as long as I've been alive since my husband's death, I can only try to manage the days even hours at a time. And I don't have nearly the health problems that you do. I'm so sorry it's been so miserable for you. I wish it was any other way, because this is been a Marathon of grief for me and unfortunately for many of us it just doesn't seem to stop. Again, just writing because I want to say I'm so sorry. Sorry that the loves of our lives are somewhere we can't attach to them. It's just awful.

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Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on July 10, 2017 at 3:49pm

Hi Morgan,

My grief will never end until I am dead 

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Permalink Reply by Richard Rivera on July 7, 2017 at 7:26am

I do appreciate your words. it's just so odd to here the voice of someone you love deeply and who is no longer with me. I don't know what to do except lay in bed in misery. I had to take off of work I just couldn't go in. Each day I get weaker. I'm laying down as I type this. God please end this suffering. I just want my wife back.

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Permalink Reply by HelenB on July 10, 2017 at 3:32pm

Wow, I have a hard time reading old emails & texts. That must be hard.

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Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on July 10, 2017 at 3:47pm

Hi Richard,

I lost my Husband 4 years ago, but I keep his voicemail message because that's all I have left of him.

 

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Permalink Reply by M Adams on July 10, 2017 at 11:00pm

It's strange how we respond to bereavement -- I wanted to preserve the last telephone message my husband left on our machine, and had talked to a friend about how best to transfer it to something permanent, but then a power outage occurred and I discovered that outage wiped out all the messages. So now I have no way to hear him speak, except perhaps in a dream. It was painful to listen to the message but at the same time I treasured it. He had a beautiful voice. I guess we keep feeling loss in new ways. I do still have some newspapers that he had filled out the crosssword in because I like to see his printing in the grids, even though seeing them makes me tear up.

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Permalink Reply by bluebird on July 16, 2017 at 7:04pm

I have kept a voicemail message from my husband, too. I never actually noticed it on my phone until sometime after he died, so I don't know when he left it and I don't recall him ever asking if I got his voicemail.  Anyway, I treasure it, and I have saved it on my phone, on my computer, and on an external hard-drive.  Among other things, in the voicemail he tells me how much he loves me, and so I will always keep that voicemail.  Yes, it's hard to listen to, but I will always want to hear his voice.  

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