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Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on January 1, 2016 at 8:54am

iv had so mush loss 2 sinse 2012 im 41 nw sisne dad died evrthngs gon wong ivv loss my way

Permalink Reply by Kris Baclawski on January 5, 2016 at 10:33am

Hello Shy:

Losing a dad at such a young age is not something a person would forget easily, I think.  My first major loss was at 10 with the passing of my only grandmother.  Her husband and my grandfather passed a couple years later.  And several more in the intervening years.  I was 56 when my 88 year old mother passed away 4 years ago--but I still think about her most every day.   Grieving is a process that varies from person to person.  Circumstances surrounding the passing can really complicate the grieving process (Was the passing unexpected?  Accidental?  Following a long illness?  Violent?)    

I am at the age where I seem to be attending a lot more funerals and have lost several dear friends and three of my fur kids in the last 6 years, leaving behind some big holes.   Few of my mother's generation are alive, and my friends are for the most part over 50 years old.  I'm learning that death is a part of the life cycle, but I also realize how each of these individuals have contributed so much to my life with their gifts of love, nurturing, listening, encouragement, companionship and friendship.  I have been greatly blessed to have these persons and animals touch my life.  

I hope you will be able to find some peace.  Talk to a counselor or minister if you feel the need. 

Take care, Kris