Both parents lost to cancer within 2 years

I'm destroyed. Both my parents have been taken by this horrid disease. My mom recently passed of balled cancer at age 65 on June 30 2015. My father passed of leukemia at age 66. It's coming up to his 2 year anniversary on July 19. I'm 36 with no parents. I've gone through 5 years of hell. Each death has occurred during my maturnity leaves as well. Which makes things even harder to deal with. I'm so angry and upset. I'm still in shock and can't figure out what to do. I have to be a parent myself and all I want to do if curl up in a ball and cry everyday. This is so unfair and I can't believe it has happened to me.

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Permalink Reply by Michael Thompson on July 13, 2015 at 2:30am

Hello Samantha.  I dont know what I can say to you ?.  My lovely wife passed from cancer following a Bowel operation in September 2014, we had been married 22 years.  I meet people when walking our Yorkie pup who lost their husbands or wives,  after years of being together.  I wrote a letter to my local paper about grief from the left behind spouses point of view, and in tribute to my wife, would you like to read it ?.....

Permalink Reply by Samantha on July 13, 2015 at 5:59am
Thank you for your reply. I would love to read what you wrote. I'm so sorry for your loss as well
Permalink Reply by Megan on July 13, 2015 at 5:57am

I am so sorry for your loss, Samantha. I can sympathize with the feeling that it is terribly unfair to lose a parent at a young age, I cannot imagine the pain of losing both. Sometimes the world can feel exceedingly cruel. I am not sure anything we say can help to make you feel better, only that you aren't alone in your feelings of grief. xx

Permalink Reply by Samantha on July 13, 2015 at 6:00am
Thank you for your kind words. I hate that I'm not alone. No one should feel this way. I know it's part of life. But it hurts alot.
Permalink Reply by Wendy (Boabie) on July 13, 2015 at 9:18pm

I am truly sorry for your losses Samantha and Michael! My dad died 1st and my mom died within 1 year and a week of my dads passing.  Having no parent's is not an easy situation at all.  The two year anniversary of my moms passing is coming up next month.  I cannot believe she has been gone for nearly two years. I also cannot imagine losing my husband either, so I feel for you both.  My best to you Samantha & Michael.

Permalink Reply by Isabel Bammer on July 13, 2015 at 9:38pm
Hello Samantha!I just read about your loss! Unfortunately it will take time to adjust! There is a before and after when you loose members of your family! And yes it is unfair,but life is continously challenging us !You are not alone ! And this forum will help you to overcome these very sad moments you are going through! Regards!Isabel

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