Sister shattered

I am the oldest of 4 children of my mother. I was present for my brothers first breathe in this world and I am on my way, in a plane, to say goodbye to him. We are 16 years apart, which is almost a generation. He was 22 years old and left this world on Saturday due to heroin, that we had no clue he was back to using again. My largest concern is my parents. Being the eldest child I have a need to protect them, but I have no idea how when this is tearing me apart too. I paid the bill yesterday for his cremation (also the worst birthday/day in my life)and was just unconsolable, but I had to pay it. I couldn't let it sit even for a minute and couldn't let my parents even view it. I didn't want anyone to think he was an open invoice. I hope to find some guidance from parents here, so I can do everything I can for mine. #wearetheaftermathofheroin

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Permalink Reply by Sharon on February 17, 2015 at 7:50pm
I lost my 22 year old son on February 8. I know exactly what your parents are going through. They can contact me if they need to cry with someone. I feel like I'm going crazy at times. My sons funeral will be February 28. I couldnt function for the first few days and my daughter was out of the country on her honeymoon. Please take care of yourself too. Hugs.... Sharon
Permalink Reply by Shannon van de Poel on February 18, 2015 at 10:10am
Thank you Sharon and I am so very sorry for you. I will absolutely pass this information to my parents. We are still in the first days and just trying to get to the next day. We are having a memorial service this weekend for him. I am wishing you love and strength to get through each day.

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