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Permalink Reply by Tracey L on January 5, 2014 at 12:35am

I can understand where you are coming from.  My Mom died suddenly (3 days) after getting ill with what we thought was a cold.  I am only 44 and I feel like I was robbed of my time with her.  Does not seem fair or right!  I go between anger, disbelief and resignation at the lose of my Mom.  She passed away on the 12/9/13 in her sleep at home so I get so angry because I never got to say Good Bye.. I never got a chance to ask her where all the important paper work was, or to go through the vast boxes of pictures she had to be able to put the names with the faces. 
I am now having to act in her role in my Dad's life, with his medications, paying bills, getting him to his doctors appointments, along with me running my own house and working full time.  I wanted to be able to see her once again and give her a hug and kiss.  I want to be able to tell her much I love her and still need her in my life.  I wish I had taken her to the ER on Sunday and maybe she would have woken up on Monday.  I am angry at myself wondering if I just turned a blind eye to what was going on instead of realizing she was in danger. 

Permalink Reply by Danny on March 2, 2014 at 3:40pm

Hi Tracey

Depending on how old the parent is, small things can become big, although it can also happen to anyone.  I know how you feel with sudden; no time to do the paperwork or to say goodbye.  The fact that you have so much on your plate makes it worse so if you can, reduce your working hours or else the stress goes off the map.

I cry a lot but what can we do ?

best to you