Three weeks ago tonight I lost my husband of 10 years. He had an unexpected asthma attack that was so severe it caused massive amount of brain damage. I now have three children to take care of and I am trying to be strong for them. But at night I feel so lonely. Then there is Christmas right around the corner. It's just so hard to be in the Christmas spirit.

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Thank you nancy and I will be praying for you every night for your loss as well

I'm so sorry.  My husband died too, and it is horrible.  I don't know how to be anymore -- I don't want to be, anymore -- so I don't really have any advice for you.  I hope your children give you a reason to live, unless/until you find other reasons to live as well.  Don't feel that you have to make a big deal out of Christmas this year. I'm sure your children are sad as well, so maybe have a low-key holiday, trying to keep it calm and peaceful. 

Thank you bluebird. Sometimes advice is not always the answer. Sharing stories and feelings seem to be the best medicine. Christmas will be low key this year. I have got each of my kids something special to help them remember their father.
I want you to keep your head up. There is a purpose for everything. We will get through this.

I think it's good that you've gotten each of your kids something special to help them remember their father.  That will probably help them and you.

I don't share your belief that there is a purpose for everything, nor do I want to get through this.  But if you do, then I hope you are able to do so -- it sounds as though you are making a good start. I hope you and your children have a peaceful Christmas.

I am touched by your reply. You are hurting deeply, but you reach out to another soul who also is hurting. Thank you for being here. I honor your grief.

I cannot imagine how overwhelmed you feel by grief and the responsibility of having the children to try to be present for. Christmas is a really hard time to be going through this. Any time is a hard time, but holidays seem to trigger so many memories and no strength to cope. I hope this group will be helpful in some way.  It was in a Dec. some years ago that I first encountered an online grief support group. My loved one lay dying and I was already in burnout. That group meant a great deal to me since I was in another city, away from friends and support. We are here for each other.

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