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My brother passed away less than a month ago after a three month battle with cancer. Since his death, my parents have litterally secluded themselves in their home and have been almost just mean. They don't care how other people are feeling they are ignoring some of us. I tried to talk to my mother and tell her that she has to find a way to get some help because I feel that they are treating people just wrong. My brother was 39 years old. I already had what I would call a tolerable relationship with them prior to this, as did many others in the family did with them. I feel bad for not calling in and checking on them, but I cannot deal with how they are acting. I know people grieve differently, but has anyone else experienced others who have acted this way? I feel that they are destroying relationships in how they are acting, but they just do not seem to care.
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I'm very sorry for your loss. And of course any family loss is horrible, but in my opinion the loss of one's child is the worst of all. You expect to see your grandparents, parents, perhaps even a sibling or spouse go before you - but not your children. And sometimes when people hurt, they lash out, or become reclusive. I'm not excusing them mind you, just something to keep in mind - the rest of the family and friends should try to remember that and not take it personally. And remember this JUST happened; a month is the blink of an eye in terms of time to grieve. It typically takes many months to even begin to regroup and is different for everyone. I would say if they want space, give them space, but try to check in now and then to let them know you are there. If talking direct is too hard, try sending a card or even a text or email (if they do that kind of thing) as sometimes that is easier.
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