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Permalink Reply by Mary on September 19, 2012 at 8:33pm

Lisa, I thought the exact same thing when my mom passed on March 21, 2012.  I still want my mom, I miss her so very much and just want to talk to her and to have her hug me tight and tell me she loves me.  I don't think that will ever go away, but the physical hurting does get easier as time goes on.  You don't have to go on like nothing happened or changed, you lost your mom, something DID happen and it's ok to grieve, to be sad, but its also ok to continue life.  I felt really bad at first when I had a good day, it made me feel guilty, like I was somehow not missing my mom enough.  Come to this support group, write out your feelings, lean on the people here.  We all have something in common and understand!

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Permalink Reply by Jayne on September 22, 2012 at 9:43pm

Hi Lisa, I just lost my mom in July. The hole in my heart for this woman is unreal. I am also in the 40's and feel like a little kid. I would like to chat with you to have someone else to connect with who feels like me. Jayne

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Permalink Reply by Grier on September 24, 2012 at 10:39pm

One thing that helps me keep my mom's memory alive is I go through all her emails with me and read the things that she recommended to me, whether it's a book, a movie or a funny link online, or a forwarded email of funny cat and dog pictures. It makes me feel like she's with me. 

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Permalink Reply by Nicole on October 8, 2012 at 3:36am

I am in tears reading all the comments.  I am 26 and lost my mom, dad and grandparents in the last 4 years.  My mom passed away from a heart attack last year Sep, 9 months after my dad passed away.  She used to phone me everyday at work and send me emails.  I feel so alone and seeing other people with their parents and grandparents makes me feel so deprived and like I dont belong to anyone.  Life is so unfair!  My whole life is ahead of me but to me it is like it has ended already.

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Permalink Reply by Kisha on October 19, 2012 at 4:56am

Hi Lisa,

I too feel the same way. I lost my mom July 22, 2012 and as the months are passing by I get more and more anxious. I want her back so bad it hurts. I hate the world is continuing without her. I was her only child and have always been childlike with regards to my mom. I surprise myself on a daily basis that I was able to get through the day because looking ahead I can't fathom going on without my mom.

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Permalink Reply by Ashlee on October 29, 2012 at 1:19pm

All I can say, through my own experience of losing my mom last year to cancer is that time does heal. I had just turned 23 before my mom had passed away last July 2011. It does get easier. I understand how you're presently feeling, but things will eventually start to make sense. I've found that with time, I'm able to seek out the positive sides of my mom passing, and I know that my family (sister, and dad) will be alright without her. BTW, you're not expected to go on like nothing has changed in your life. 

No one expects this out of you, just take it one day at a time. :0)

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Permalink Reply by Ashley on December 25, 2012 at 1:58am

My mom passed away in April 2012 and I still can't seem to find meaning in life without her. I hope in time we can all find our meaning in life without our loved ones being present physically. 

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