I lost my best friend to Ovarian Cancer. I moved from Portland, Oregon, to New Jersey to be with her 5 years ago when she was first Diagnosed. We'd been like sisters for what would have been 11 years this christmas. She was just 38 years old. I was there the night she died. I saw her go from being somewhat ok, and her radiation of the brain working, to suffering with breathing. I had to call her Parents, at home at 5:30 in the morning on July 4th, and demand they come to the hospital that she was dying. She was going to be placed on a ventilator. They got the ventilator installed after she had low oxygen levels for 2 hours and one of the last actions she did was to rip out the tube, then  they started a second one, and she coded. I was in the hall way, watching , I had to make a phone call to her parents, saying, she's code blue, you need to get to the hospital as soon as possible. I watched them fight to get her heart started again, for 25 minutes, they were almost ready to stop when her parents arrived, but she was already gone. I was able to see her one last time and see her looking at me, and fighting to tell me, that she loved me, and then down to ICU she went. We were told she had 20 minutes left to live. She lingered another day and half. I had to fight to get her father to take her off the life support, because it was what she wanted. As soon as we took her off, she was gone, we didn't even see her breath again. She was gone, her heart stopped. My life is too in god's hands, and what i'm doing for my best friend, i promised her, I would, do an Ovarian Cancer walk. I hope to complete my first one in her memory this October.

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Comment by Anne Delina Johnson on July 21, 2011 at 7:43am

Thank you Ruth, Rosie is the one in the pink hat. She's the one who passed.  

 

Comment by Ruth on July 20, 2011 at 9:52pm

Rosie,

Let me extend condolences to you at this time of your deep loss.  Thank you for being there for your friend, making the world a little kinder place.  Please try not to be angry with her parents for being dense.  My husband tells me I was very oblivious to my mom's demise, that she was making preparing remarks that went over my head.  It is NOT because I didn't love her.  It's just because she was such a solid part of my world, I couldn't take in she wouldn't be there sooner rather than later.  It is very good you know we are in His Precious Hands and that you have promises to keep to your friend.  Take care of yourself, Ruth

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