I totally believe that you grieve over the loss of yourself when you are raped. I am a survivor of rape and I can honestly say that I greived over the parts of me that were taken away from the rape and I am not sure even now as healed as I have been that they will come back,. I mourn for the trusting way I used to be because I am not that way anymore. And I mourn for the happiness I lost in my life. It has not been an easy road but I am making it slowly back maybe not to the person I was but a better healed one.