First, I had to learn to love myself and to define myself individually without the “couple-ness” that was so easy to hide behind in the past.  I had to set the boundaries I was willing to work within, and most importantly, picture what I was supposed to be like when I became the new me.  I know now that I was functioning without a base of my own.  I believe grief’s job is to knock out your foundation so you never feel steady on your feet.  When that happens, though, confusion, fright, and loneliness take over.

~Mike

Live

Live the life you want to,

not the life you think you are supposed to.

Fate has nothing to do with it.

You decide where you fit into the scheme of things.

Hold onto the reality

that you can have the life you want,

but keep in mind you might not need it.

Be thankful for the chance you have,

to live the life you want,

and use it wisely to grow

into what you should have.

Excerpt from “My Compass, Our Story-A Journey through Life and Death