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Comment by Diana, Grief Recovery Coach on February 12, 2009 at 11:12am

Oh don't worry about the typing. It's the message that's important. (((((hugs)))))

I want to share your site with others: http://www.lighthouse4jesus.com/

Comment by Dj French on February 12, 2009 at 11:04am

excuse any typos in my post. my left hand was badly affected by the strokes and has a mind of its own how to type?

Comment by Dj French on February 12, 2009 at 11:03am

I have learned that the stages of grief are not steps that you go thru and then they are finished. you continue to go thru these stages for the rest of your life or I have and the other moms online have. Shane wrote poetry, stories, everything like me and he had the same passion for reading and writing as me. I was told by a therapist right after Shane was killed that God had given usthis gift as a way to express our emotions. She told me to write to Shane just as thugh he was here and I was talking to him. I started doing this and have continued to do so over the years. I have journals full of letters, poems, etc and as I go back and read them now I can feel the pain , anger and raw emotions in them. But this is a form of therapy for me to help me walk this long grief road. Writing poetry for other angels and making their web pages is also therapy for me. I feel that I am doing these things in Shanes memory and in the angels memory the page is made for.I have read so many books about grief and I can tell in the first 2 chapters if the author has truly lost a child and knows what they are writing about? I quit readng if they havent because there is absolutely no way they can have a clue what this loss is like, no way. I had open heart surgery about 2 yrs before Shane was killed and had 3 heart attacks within 5 months of losing him. This was followed by 2 strokes and 2 complete nervous breakdowns and at least 4 yars of seizures. These were horrible, occcrring at any time, causing me to lose control of my entire system. I never thought I would ever be able to help anyone else but I can and will continue to help as long as I can. Hugs, dj