Hello -- I'm so glad this site is here. I spoke to an old family friend who is encouraging me to go down and see my mom out of state and ignore my mom's wishes. My mom really made it clear to me she does not want me to come down, and I want to respect her wishes. I talk to her once a week on the phone, per her request, and ask her each time if she has changed her mind about me going down to see her; she has not. The hospice people also told me I should probably not go down to see her. I just…