"...This new life is hell without my son. Once strong, loving and livng life to this awful place. Zombie type of living, going thru the motions with no emotions..."

RJ, I agree. I am sorry for the loss of your son, Larry...I lost my beloved son, Jesse in 2012 and an infant son, Taylor, in 1987.

It is one day at a time, some times one hour at a time for me. Somedays it seems better and some days I can hardly move. The images of the grief messages you posted are so very true. Thanks for sharing your son here.

Sending you gentle thoughts today.

Thank you so much for taking the time to leave me a message. The pain of losing my spouse I am sure doesn't compare the pain of losing a child. One of best friends gave birth to a sleeping baby. I cannot fathom the pain that you, she and others must feel. My heart truly breaks for your loss! Bless you and your family, as well. 

Hi Rj - don't EVER feel any pressure to change the way you are grieving.  It is an individual process that only you know what's best.  I too am dreading the holidays - losing an only child is like losing a limb. I feel so empty.

I will be thinking of you and everyone else who must endure this horrible heartache - hugs to you always

Gale

Hi Rj,

Just wanted to check in to see how you're holding up.  It's another holiday and we are probably all anticipating the inevitable gaps from the loss of our loved ones.  Please know that you are not alone in your grief - in fact there are way too many of us who have lost a child; an only child.  Its like I don't know what to do with my role as a mother.  I can't give it away because it belongs to Michael, my son.  I'm not willing to discard it because I'll always be Michael's mom, yet I sometimes feel like I have no opportunity to use it again.  Such sadness and heartbreak... Oh well I guess all one can do is put one foot in front of the other and move.  Take care - hugs to you

Hi Rj - I'm so so sorry to hear about the loss of your only child.  I too lost my only child in June of 2014.  The loss is so monumental yet somehow you will manage to breathe, walk and perhaps even move forward.  I don't know how i've made it thus far - I just have.  He looks like a happy go lucky type of young man.  My son Michael was 31 and both he and his girlfriend died from an accidental overdose.  I cry everyday at some point and just recently I was able to put up a recent picture of him.  I have a great resource for you - it's an organization for those parents who lost an only child.  Its called Alivealone.org.  Let me know what you think.  Hugs and more hugs to you

Gale

Ronda, I am so so so sorry . I lost my only child too , who was 27 in a road accident. I know this pain all too well and I know how you feel and the terrible knowledge that while we live on , our world has shattered and changed. What a handsome boy Ronda, and I pray that you get the strength needed now. We are all here for you. Please do message or write whatever you feel like as it helps to be understood and no other who has not suffered this terrible nightmare can even begin to understand. Love to you.

Vasanthi