Heather
  • Female
  • Lake Station, IN
  • United States
Share on Facebook MySpace
  • Blog Posts
  • Discussions
  • Groups
  • Photos (1)
  • Photo Albums
  • Videos

Heather's Friends

  • Sandy Hendrix
  • morgan

Gifts Received

Gift

Heather has not received any gifts yet

Give a Gift

 

Heather's Page

Profile Information

About Me:
I am 37. Mother of two boys and a girl. I work in accounting for a union shop.
About my Loss:
My boyfriend bought a motorcycle a couple weeks ago. Thursday, 9/24/15, he was driving to a place we were going to eat while I followed behind him in the truck. A woman in a pickup truck turned when she wasn't supposed to and hit him right in front of me. I stood by him talking to him and measuring his breaths until the ambulance came. I think he could hear me. He passed almost 30 minutes after getting to the hospital. He was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I don't know how I am going to go on living without him. I have to though because I have three children that need me. So I'm just going to live a very sad life from now on and that doesn't seem like anything to look forward to. Don't know how I'm ever going to feel good again. I sometimes wish I didn't have children that would be left behind and hurt because I really don't want to live without him. It is only for my kids that I am still here.

Heather's Photos

  • Add Photos
  • View All

Comment Wall (3 comments)

You need to be a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community to add comments!

Join Online Grief Support - A Social Community

At 8:57am on October 1, 2015, Heather said…
I just remembered something this morning. Before we left he was looking all over for his clear glasses for riding at night and couldn't find them. So he was riding with the darker glasses. I wonder if he would have been able to react better if he had the clear ones. Why oh why didn't I make him get in the truck with me instead of taking the truck and the bike?
At 1:20am on October 1, 2015, morgan said…

Oh Heather, I am so so sorry.  I cant imagine what you must feel like right now.  To have something like that happen right in front of you, well, I simply can't imagine it.  All I can say is I am so sorry for you.

I've been traveling this path of grief for 32 months now and everyday I question why.  Why my husband?  Why him, why the way he died, where is he now, are we going to be together again, I need to know things there are no answers to.  So I keep asking why? I keep asking it over and over.  It's probably one of the things that will never change.  

Some things do change. But slowly.  Ever so slowly.  All I can tell you is to take small steps and concentrate on the children and what they need and it will help to distract you from the grief.  I didn't have children but I had to try and do things to distract myself.  It is a daily struggle and you will wonder why many many times but focus on the little ones.  

Come here when you need to unload because every one of us gets it.  We know how you are feeling and we are here to listen.  Each of us does the same thing and as horrible as it may sound we all help each other by being able to tell out loud how hurt we are.

Take the best care you can and don't expect too much out of yourself right now.  Just get through the basics.  And kiss, kiss the little ones. Hug them tight.  It hopefully will help.

morgan

At 3:13pm on September 30, 2015, Sandy Hendrix said…

Oh Heather, I am so very sorry.  That is terrible and how awful you saw it but he knew you were there with him.  You are still in shock now, the days will be so very hard but after some time they get a teeny bit easier. But your kids do need you, you will find support on here and so sorry that you have to find yourself here.  Hugs

 
 
 

Groups

Latest Activity

david karpe posted a status
"I'm wondering if Myrna is well. Happy new year to Myrna and everybody."
Jan 15
0 Comments
david karpe is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Jan 15
Welcome Them!
Sasha Moshko posted a discussion

My Fathers Loss

Many years ago, I lost my father after his battle with colon cancer that later spread to his bones. The grief stayed with me longer than I expected. Ambrosia Behavioral Health helped me work through that loss, understand my emotions, and find healthier ways to cope and move forward. https://www.ambrosiatc.comSee More
Jan 14
0 Comments
Sasha Moshko left a comment for Sasha Moshko
"Professional help gives you a safe space to talk, understand your emotions, and learn healthy ways to cope. It can make grief feel less overwhelming and easier to manage over time. https://www.ambrosiatc.com"
Jan 14
MELANIE WALENDOWSKY BAKER is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Jan 14
Welcome Them!
Krystal Swinehart joined Jodi Denton's group
Thumbnail

Traumatic loss of an only child

I started this group so that people who have lost their only child or the only child that remained, as in my case, could come together because I believe people that did have a child or children who now have none have special issues.
Jan 12
61 Comments
Krystal Swinehart joined Dayna's group
Thumbnail

Loss of a loved one to alcohol, substance abuse or suicide

If you have lost a loved one to alcohol, substance abuse or suicide please share your story or feelings here. Share the love and beauty of the one you lost. Losing someone any of these ways is not natural and can be hard to understand and ask why? I lost my Mother to an overdose 9 years ago. She also suffered from major depression. Her doctor got her hooked on pain medication and she was addicted most of my life. These doctors who were suppose to help her ended up killing her in the end. I also…See More
Jan 12
1 Comment
Karen R. replied to Entony's discussion Movies about grief that actually understand loss — any recommendations?
"So sorry!💔💔💔💔💔"
Jan 2

© 2026   Created by Ninja.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service