Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Peggy Jeanine Woody
Female
Benton, IL
United States
Profile Information:
- About Me:
- I am a 60 year old wife and mother of 2 grown children and an angel in heaven. I am a Christian who has not been going to church on a regular basis, but desire to return and be a vessel for God's work.
- About my Loss:
- I had a son who had a terrible car accident 18 years ago. He lost both feet and a finger at the scene of the crash. We didn't know if he would survive but he did. He never learned to use his prosthetics. He ended up with an above the left knee amputation and a below the right knee amputation. The feet were gone at the scene. He has dealt with enormous phantom pain for all these yeaars and was on medication for it. Dr.s told me his pain was like a memory of the point of impact. On April 30, 2010 my daughter went by to pick him up to take him and grandpa out to eat. When they got to his appartment, they saw the door was not locked. They pushed the door open and saw him on the floor, but thought he was asleep. They soon realized he had passed away. They called 911 and then Stacie called me to tell me. She is also the one who found out about his accident and came to get me. I could not believe he was gone. I had spent some extra time with him that week and was grateful. The monday before my younger son called me and had received a text that was unusual and wanted to send police to check on him. I told him I had a key and would check on him. He was fine. just tired and went to bed. I notified my younger son and we all rested easy after that. When I got to his appartment, a police woman came out and told me that I should not go in, that as one mother to another she didn't feel it was good for me to see him. Since that time I cannot get control of my emotions. I would not have him to come back to the pain he was in, but I have a hole the size of Texas in my heart and the pain is horrendous. I don't know how to gain control and need some help. Thank you for taking time to read this.
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John B
Thankyou for your Sensitivity towards my Best Friend Rhetty, who has Suffered 41 years too long. Luckily, she has found a few online support groups for Birth Mothers as well as Face to Face Meetings for Birth Parents, Adoptees, and even Adoptee Parents to meet and Share their feelings. Here is Rhetty's Story. She said she has many American Friends online who are Very Kind & Supportive. Please pray for her and Scott and that they will reunite soon, as her knee has been in great pain and she fortunately survived Emergency Cancer Surgery 2 years ago. Thankyou for your Prayers. Peace To You as well. John
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Apr 18, 2011
Tara Deluise
I am so sorry for your loss! I too lost my husband of 35 years. The pain is indescribable only someone who has lost a loved one can understand your pain! You feel a hole in your heart, lost and scared! What is helping me get through my grief is returning to church and believing my loved one is no longer in pain and at peace! I cry daily but they say it is good to cry that you need to let the tears out. I am told when I can think of him without crying and remember the love we shared and thoughts of him bring happiness that I am getting better! I am told there is no way around it, no shortcuts. Grieving is a process that you must go through. I also joined the online support group to hear others stories and maybe some help will come through their experiences. I am also receiving grief counseling from my pastor. I am trying to stay connected to family members and keep myself busy. Someone had mentioned in church to do something for him here on earth in his memory. She said she has started a memorial garden for her mother she has here grandchildren involved in the planting. So anything you do that helps you get through the day will help, Meditation, reading the bible. Trusting in the Lord! That his time is not our time. Psalm 91 and psalm 121 have helped me.
May 2, 2011
Peggy Jeanine Woody
Apr 14, 2014