Teresa~ if you do not mind sharing ~ how did you loose your son. I know it has not been long since he passed away. It is ok to "just stare at the screen and cry". We all grieve at different levels and at different times. I am sorry you had to join this group. None of us want to be here. Just know we care. Sending you hugs!!

I am so sorry that he left you so suddenly. While it has only been a few months, please know it will become a little easier as time goes on. But there will be days in which you feel as if it just happened.

One of the most important things that has helped me has been my faith in Christ. I have the knowledge in knowing that someday again I will see my son.

Something that might help with holidays and birthdays is to make donations to a local shelter in your son's name. While I know you can't fathom this right now, please keep it on a back burner (so to speak) for the future. This is just one of the ways in which I have learned to cope with my son's passing.

Dear Teresa,

I lost my son who was 27 in Dec..23rd 2011. He was full of life, funny, kind and loving. He and 5 others had left their ofc ( he was working in Dubai)and had gone for lunch. On the way back their suv skidded , his friend who was driving applied the accelerator by mistake and the vehicle turned turtle a few times. My son and another friend of his lost their lives on the spot. The other 4 were ok.He is my only child and the loss is unimaginable. I do know what you are going through. You are in my prayers.Love to you.

Thank you Teresa. I just uploaded 3 pics of Shreyas ( Micky) . He loved the water and any kind of adventure, yet he was not reckless or silly. Just adding these pics is also painful and seeing him makes me smile-- anyway, its all a time of utter confusion and sorrow-- take care all

Dear Teresa, I am glad we are friends. I lost my son and only child almost 8 months ago. It is such a tough path we are on and am so grateful to have this group. Sending you love and prayers to get through this pain.

Teresa, thinking of you.. was reading some of the things you wrote.. many times shreyas's office friends also tell me what funny things would transpire and how they always feel. Last Dec 23rd some of them went to the same road n put some flowers there.. all very heartrending ..but hang in there... u r not alone... whenever u need to u can email me at vasanti.s@gmail.com too..love to u.

Dear Teresa, Wow that a very tough story.  I talked to Matthew the night before he was rushed to the hospital.  He was happy he'd found a job,  little did I know.   He was with a woman whom he was going, to ask to marry him the next morning before she drop him at work.  For the first time in years I heard a sparkle in him. He told me  mom your my rock now,  I love you so much mom he told me, and my son didn't pass a hour later.  However  22 Hours later he was in ICU with tube's in mouth and nose and they were telling me  all his organs were shutting down.  So I can't image losing him a hour after we talked . 

I hope I didn't offend you with my post to you but thanks for answering mine and please remember I knew and don't want step on anyone toe's Judy Edwards

Teresa,

You can talk to a group of your friends or individuals, when you use the message or email on www.onlinegriefsupport.com

First approve someone as your friend and then at the top left of their page,  under their name, there will be an email icon and the words "Send Message". If you click on that you will find yourself in your email. This is private between you and the other person for even a group oooof your friends that you pick from the drop down menu.

Of course you can ask for our personal email - I will only give it out with-in the private email.

You can read all comments and answer to the individual email and your words etc are private.

Trying to be helpful,

Brenda

I feel the same way Teresa D. Everyone has problems. Everyone still have their son and I don't have my son. I was not there when my son needed me the most. I feel like I failed him. I just look at his pictures and sit. I just stare and stare.

Thank you for sharing Michael and his food order. I smiled. I wished I was on the phone with my son too.........Lord, Please have mercy on us.

Bern

I was reading your profile and noticed our sons were close in age, Jesse born in August 2, 1984 and he passed on October 10, 2012...I too was so close with my son, there was nothing I could not share with him...I am missing my best friend...

You are about the same time frame in this journey of loss...this is just so hard...

Hi Teresa, I'm so so sorry for your loss.  My son died at age 31 on June 9, 2014.  He was born on September 14, 1982 and he was the light of my life.  I am still in shock and disbelief over his sudden passing.  My Michael had struggled for a period of time with drugs but for the last 8 months was turning his life around.  He was a talented graphic designer and animator for big companies like HBO,  Showtime, A&E, History channel and other popular  shows.  Michael's dad had passed away and I was re-married to a wonderful man with a daughter 10 years younger.  They got along so well; I truly felt we had the perfect family......until June 9th.  Evidently Michael and his girlfriend chose to pick up drugs again and they never woke up.  The news just rocked my world.  I trying to breathe -one breath at a time.  Your story truly resonated with me and I wanted to reach out.  I too didn't get to see Michael however i'm ok with that - I want to remember him full of life.  It helps me keep him alive in my mind.  I wish you peace and pleased keep in touch - I need the support desperately. Hugs - Gale 

Hi Teressa, I am so sorry for the loss of your son Michael. I have no answers for you on why this sadness happened in your life. I search for answers too. This is probably the most difficult circumstance I ever had to deal with, and all I know is I need to be strong for my 12 year old that he will not loose his Mother too. Thank you for your friend request, and hope that our friendship will give you some needed support.

I think ZELL should stop this ... nobody is trying to say you aren't grieving for your mate... and nobody is saying it isn't horrible... personally I don't know what its like and PLEASE GOD I never will because I truly think I would lose my mind... and my husband has health issues.. so I DO empathize with your loss Zell.... but you did not lose a child... so please don't compare ... you don't know it because you haven't been there but you just CAN'T compare any other grief than that of a grieving parent... not that we are saying we are in some sort of sick race to prove who is suffering the most or anything.. its just DIFFERENT in a horrible way you can't understand...

I wish with ALL MY HEART that I had only NEARLY lost my son.... and its just too simplistic to say 'grief is grief'.... we don't negate your grief... so please don't trivialize what we are trying to tell you... we don't want to hurt you any more than you are hurting.... I once was attacked in another grief room... years ago after I lost my granddaughters... because I said I was in a sense grieving for my two totally disabled sons because they seemed to be dying a little at a time... at the time I didn't understand the fury that descended upon me for saying that... now I do... unfortunately...

at the time I felt unfairly attacked and tried to explain myself and my fear and anguish over the difficulties my sons had to face and the apprehension that I would lose them at a young age... and I was grieving for my granddaughters too... but even that horrible grief that immobilized me for at least a year... I carried around a baby doll, wrote poetry to my granddaughters ... did not function well AT ALL... and yet it was just NOT the same... horrible as it was and IS to have lost my sweet granddaughters... it's NOT THE SAME...

now I think I have these comments in the wrong place... sorry Teresa I meant these for Zell...

I'm such a DITZ