anne

Female

Hettinger, ND

United States

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About Me:
I am 50 years old. I used to be the mother of 4 children. I love music. I work at a nursing home and I have one grandchild.
About my Loss:
My youngest son was burned to death in a car accident in 1998. He was 12 years old. In 2007 my oldest son was killed in a tradgic accident.I am confused and very sad and I feel all alone.

Comment Wall:

  • melissa whaley

    hi Anne my name is melissa i lost my daughter june 09 she drown at 15 because some family members thought they would be cool and let her get drunk. She got out of control went in the lake and was found hours later it was all horrible having the police wake us at 4:30 am I know how it feels to have an imagination that runs off with you imagining their last minutes. I am terribly sorry for your losses. Just remember if you are mad at God its ok he can handle it and he understands. I found a websight that helped me NDERF it is a near death experiance websight. You can read stories of what people have experianced at times of their body being dead. It helps to compfort me

    Oct 4, 2010

  • Deborah K.L.W. Dunham

    God Bless you during such a difficult task of your grief. I hope that you are doing better. You are in my prayers. Your children would want you to find happiness again.

    Nov 9, 2010

  • Dana Jarrett

    Thanks Anne! We are in shock! That's to say it nicely. I dread when true reality hits us because it just seems more than we can bear. I keep praying that God keeps giving us some peaceful moments remembering our Mom. The sad part is that this year our New Year's resolution was to take Mom on her first cruise. We were supposed to be sailing the Monday after she died. It hurts us that we never got to take her on that cruise. We had just had a packing party- in fact that was the last time I seen her. My dad just was not going to let her have fun and do something exciting. My heart hurts more for the moments that I won't have her here with me. I know she will be here in spirit but I think of things like having my children and the fact that I won;t have my sweet Mom to be there to experience all that joy with me. She had been praying for me to have her some grandbabies and I feel like I failed her because I didn't have them before she left us. My brother and Sister are 11 and 12 years older than me and all of their kids are late in the teenage years. Sorry to ramble on and vent but it's nice to have someone that doesn't know me or my hurt listening to me. Thanks!

    Apr 23, 2011

  • Gin Jones

    Don't let anyone tell you that the things you write about are wrong...they just don't understand as some of us do. Keep up your great writings!!!!

    Apr 29, 2011

  • Judy Edwards

    Thank you for becoming my friend is appreciated very much. Judy Edwards

    Aug 30, 2013

  • Ammy

    Anne,

    I have not been posting on the wall as I am going through a relapse of sorts.  Numbness, sadness, anger, sudden tears, heartache all at once again.  Just waiting for another reprieve. 

    I am sorry I didn't know earlier that today was Ben's 6th year gone.  Even though I know the pain of grief, I still don't know the words that could comfort.  Does anyone know?  Are there any words?  No, I don't think it's the words, it's the presence.  Someone's presence; whether in thought or physically.  So, I don't know any special words, but I do know grief and I am with you in my thoughts and prayers.  

    I hope that you were able to find some good memories to help you through the day.

    I also hope your health is better.  Take care.  (((HUGS)))

    Oct 6, 2013

  • Anne

    Great!! My Mom's 1 yr anniversary is on Friday...has been a rough few months. 

      Sometimes it's hard to read the threads on here, sometimes they just make me sadder, yesterday though; I had no problems and actually found some comfort.  Thanks again for accepting the friend request. BTW I have PTSD as well.

    Nov 24, 2013

  • Survivor17

    Thank you Anne , Its good to have you as a friend as well. I have read many of your posts. My heart goes out to you . 

    Dec 3, 2013

  • Michelle H

    Anne, how are you able to let your family prevent you from talking about your boys? You have the right to speak about them. It seems so selfish of them to put you on a guilt trip when you mention them. Have you ever told them just how much additional pain that puts you through? I would think that it would also create a "wall" between you and your girls. You're strong, but sometimes it's OK not to be.

    May 12, 2014