Annette Dominguez

Female

Schertz, TX

United States

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About Me:: I am 50 years old, was married for 30 years, have two wonderful children. I am devastated by my husbands death. I know this is still too soon but am crying everyday several times a day.
About my Loss:: My husband died of an accidental gunshot would on 1/1/11. I feel like I will never get over this sadness and crying. I am going to a grief share group once a week but I feel like I need a little more support than once a week.

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Jillian Margaret Dalziel

Hello Annette, I am so sorry for your loss. I understand the total devastation that you are feeling. I too feel that I will never get over losing my beloved Chris, but I know that each day is a little better than the last. Chris was ill for many years and was fading away but we all just refused to see what was happening so when he passed it was still such a shock to us all. I have 2 fantastic children - my son still lives with me and is such a comfort and a wonderful daughter (who is going through her own trauma - another story) and I have great friends but I still feel like I am doing this by myself. I think this group is wonderful as only those who are going through the same thing seem to understand that the feelings of lonliness and shock that we are suffering. I hope that we can chat again. Take care of yourself, keep going to the grief group and keep in touch with the people on this site. You will be in my prayers each day.

May 26, 2011
Jillian Margaret Dalziel

Hello Annette, just checking in to see how you are doing? I hope you are finding it a little easier each day - if not, then tomorrow will be better. Small things and positive thoughts help I find and I am trying to see something good in each day - whether it is a smile from a stranger or just a beautiful birdsong. The sadness and crying will ease with time and you will be left with lovely memories but always you will remember your husband with love. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

May 31, 2011
Lorna

Hi Annette, I was reading all your comments and it helps me know that i am not alone. My husband died 4 months ago from a sudden cardiac arrest and I had do CPR till medics got here and with two lil ones cryin.. never forget it, he made it to the hospital, they sd I saved his life only to have to let him go two days later. I find myself crying alot too. I work and take care of my grandkids but not having him here esp at night is the hardest. Somedays I think can i just get one day where I wont cry.... I know everyone says its normal but I hate it!!!!! I feel so alone sometimes and I talk to him alot but end up crying more. Now tomorrow is fathers day anfd I know his daughter is going to have such a hard time, I want to call but afraid of what to say.. I miss him so muchand I know she does tooo.

Jun 18, 2011
Lorna

I will pray for you too... I know the feeling of sadness of being alone. Even though I am raising two grandchildren, I still am lost without my husband. Its been 7 months now and some days are easy and then the nights are the worst. Everyone says to just get on with your life and I want to scream at them and say HOW!!!!!!! and then there is all the people saying these are the stages of grief!!!! I am very fortunate to have lots of friends and family for support as I hope you do too. All we can do is stay strong in our love for God to get us through.. Take care of you.. do something for yourself that will make you feel good!

Oct 3, 2011
Ammy

Hi Annette, just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you this morning. I pray that your day will bring you some comfort. Every little reprieve is a blessing that helps give us strength to cope when the loneliness and pain becomes unbearable. Be gentle with yourself and know that you are in my prayers.

Oct 7, 2011
Annette Dominguez

I keep asking God how much longer will I feel adrift. I know God says He has a plan and a purpose for my life. Right now I think it is just to be here for my kids and hope that I am right. But it is hard to focus on that when the love of my life is not here. I wonder how long it will be before I can look at his pictures without crying. I want to remember the good things most of the time but I miss him so much and it just makes me cry. Time is supposed to make it hurt less but that hasn't happened yet either. I cry out to God everyday for comfort and peace. I still wake up with anxiety attacks in the morning. I know nothing will ever be "normal" again but I sure would like to feel better.

Oct 10, 2011
Amanda Ab

Annette, I ask God and myself the same question you do, very often. Although, it has just been months, it feels like an eternity that I have not seen my husband, or talked to him. With holidays approaching, and winter coming, very sad days are coming. I now miss him more than ever. I too, try to find a purpose, every single day for me to get up and do okay for the day. And somehow i make it through, because our son needs me, but at the end of the day, I too, need my husband!!..

Oct 10, 2011
Brenda Ann

Annette,

I was happy to see that you accepted my friendship request. I am sorry that you are in such pain. Do you believe in God and the Bible? Would it be ok to share some comfort from the scriptures?

I will keep you in my prayers...

Brenda

mawmaw1591@gmail.com

www.grief-and-comfort.com

Dec 11, 2011