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Permalink Reply by coachlouise on October 5, 2012 at 2:35am

It is plain not easy, and I deeply feel for you, keep writing your feelings ,you have to feel in order to heal, I wish no one ever had to suffer this pain, but all I can tell you you is within the mist of of it all there comes gifts, not that you would have ever chosen this path, not that you ever get over missing your loved ones, but to ever arrive at receiving the understanding or the gifts you first must let yourself mourn,feel, vent, it hurts, cry, scream outside, punch a punching bag, run, workout,and know your loved ones are with you, supporting you and sending you love. pay attention to any sign. I send you compassion

Permalink Reply by Joseph G. Bartlett on October 5, 2012 at 2:39pm

thank you i've allways been a person of little words now  i've been happy forever with nothing more to say now that she's gone i have lots & lots of things to say but im trying to figure out how to put them out  as as i've been learning to EXPRESS  my self so bare with me once again thank you

Permalink Reply by David A on October 18, 2012 at 12:38pm

Joseph,

I am very sorry for the loss of your loved one.  Grieving is not easy. Grieving will seem to suck the life out you some days.  Grieving is individual too.  While we can share our thoughts and hope for the best, its still up to you to be strong and get through this. 

I too was in your shoes about 18 months ago when my wife committed suicide while I was 1800 miles away.  I was devastated and didn't know if I'd see tomorrows sun.  But the sun did come up and I found this website.  A few people reached out to me and I took their advise.  I found that sharing with others helped me with my grieving even when I didn't get a response to my writings.  So when you feel really down just remember to breath, take a deep breath and know everything in life happens for a reason.  We all die some day and its unfortunate that your loved one died.  Take solace in knowing that we all have been in your shoes and know where you are coming from.  It hurts I know.  It took me months to recover from my loss and I am sure your hurting isn't going to end soon but know this, it will end.  I still miss my wife greatly and think of her every day.  I did get better and so will you. 

Take care and remember to breath,

DAvid

Permalink Reply by Brenda Doughty on October 24, 2012 at 4:04pm

Pain is pain, and there is no right or wrong way to feel it. I understand the well-meaning of people, but when there are complications like children, it can add intensity to the feelings because the view is you have to be strong for them. And yes, it makes it harder to grieve, I think. I don't have answers, but I know reaching out is a good thing. Please continue to do so, and I will keep you in my mind and thoughts as you take this very hard journey.