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Permalink Reply by Patricia Hoffman on April 16, 2013 at 10:07pm

I am praying for you.......I am looking for peace as well..

Permalink Reply by Bern on April 17, 2013 at 9:44am

Michelle, my only son was shot 6months ago. I have asked for help. The detectives never explain or asked us to come in and explain anything. I called. I along with my husband went to the police station, standing there looking like fools. I sit in the car. I let my husband go in the building. I could not do it. I had done all the calls, set up appointments and he just acted like a robot...I know our son was his only son, so that was my way of letting him get the news. The news was worst than anything we ever got. The police had no answers. They took our number and told us they would call us later. Later! Later!..talking over the phone is nothing like in person. Mobile Alabama did nothing to ease our wondering minds of how much pain our son was in, what happen, why it happen... So be there for your sister. As a mother I find myself on the floor crying until my head hurts when I am alone and often when my sister is here. I start to cry again. So it is Hard.

Permalink Reply by Patricia Hoffman on April 17, 2013 at 10:33am

How old was your son? :(

Permalink Reply by Bern on April 17, 2013 at 11:37am

He is 20 and will always be 20 years old.

Permalink Reply by Patricia Hoffman on April 17, 2013 at 11:39am

I am very sorry, my granddaughter is 3 1/2, both taken way too early. :(

Permalink Reply by Michelle Peterson on April 17, 2013 at 12:29pm

We have someone in custody and he has been charged. He waived his Miranda rights...why do we even need a trial? I'm sorry the police won't/haven't helped you. I have found the police here don't communicate well at all. But thankfully we have a good DA and she is very honest. It really doesn't bring me any peace having the man in jail because it doesn't bring Ryan back. He was 24 and had a 5 year old little girl. I will always be here for my sister, we have a tight family. My sister has chosen to not know any of the details. I'm not sure if that is good or not?

Permalink Reply by Bern on April 17, 2013 at 2:10pm

The legal issues that a parent of a child or love one has to deal with after they are gone is horrible. My life is always on edge cause I am waiting for another phone call. The city of Mobile Alabama did not do a good job.

Permalink Reply by Gina Stone on April 25, 2013 at 10:41am

Im so sorry. I lost my only child my son on Dec 31, 2012 he was only 26. I also was and am beyond sad. My anger as well has been slow in coming. Its been easier for me if I just allow whatever feelings I am to come and to not feel bad about them. There is simply no understanding a loss such as your's and mine, so dont try to drive yourself crazy by figuring it out. I  believe peace will come one day for you and everyone in time. Until then Know that you are not alone out there, and that I and many  others understand what your going through. Hugs and Blessings to you and all of your family. Sincerely, gina

Permalink Reply by Bern on May 6, 2013 at 7:30am

My son too was murdered. The girl that he was with said they were playing Russian roulette. That is the oldest story in the history of time. When someone get hurt, they blame the victim. My son was 20 years old. He worked, had a job and enjoying life. I could handle it if he was depressed, ill or accident. They just killed him and blamed him. The DA and detectives here in Mobile Alabama treated it like just another poor black boy. Until it happens to them. Who gives a dam. So be prepared to walk along and fight to find justice for your nephew. The police stated they detach themselves in order to do their jobs. So sad. It has been 7 months.