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Permalink Reply by Mark on January 16, 2014 at 2:12pm

Ellen,

 

I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know what to say, I just thought I should reply as no one had  yet had a chance too. I didn't want you thinking no one cared. 

 

I don't pretend to know your situation. I just knowthat coming up on 2 years since both my parents passed 2 months apart it is still hard.

 

I know there are people who say things that make things *worse* a bit by saying "they are in a better place ".  I don't like hearing that as as much as I believe in something beyond, what does that say about the time they were here.

 

There is a big void left by someone close passing.  I am going to try and reconnect with another grief group as while the pain is not as intense, my feeling of loss because I was so close with them, is still there to some degree.

 

I hope you find some support through this group and or elsewhere, that is positive.

Permalink Reply by Connie K on January 16, 2014 at 2:43pm

Dear Ellen

I am so sorry for your pain. This process of getting through all the emotions is so tough. Just remember, no matter what you could have done, your sister had her own path and made her own choices. I understand this situation and know how hard it is to deal with the guilt. But you are not alone. we all have all those things, some days worse than others. Sometimes, all that matters is that you just want them back and you want another chance to make everything okay. That's when I have to have faith that the love lives on, their spirit lives on and holds nothing for us but love, the hard part is loving ourselves. Have you checked out the Compassionate Friends. It's a national organization for those who have lost children or siblings.  Check out their website for local meetings. Maybe you can find some folks to connect with there who will understand what you are going through. I hope you can find some peace today. Hugs Connie

Permalink Reply by Mel Pope on January 19, 2014 at 10:19pm

You're in my thoughts tonight, Ellen. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and loneliness. I pray you find comfort in your journey. <3

Permalink Reply by Anthea H on January 21, 2014 at 9:22am

Ellen, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my dad last year December and everyday he is still in my thoughts. My heart is completely broken. Everyday I have to find the strength and courage to face the day, it's hard. I can only try, and I hope you will too. When I need to cry, I cry. When I feel pain, I embrace it. But I try and I hope you'll find the strength deep down to try, too.

If we could, we would change the past, make different choices and decisions. But we can't.

You're in my thoughts.