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Permalink Reply by Mark on March 3, 2013 at 10:37am

Toyanne,

 

I am so sorry for your loss. It is understandable how sad it is when you don't get to say goodbye due to a loss so sudden.

 

To share my experience, my Mom passed like this.  I also did not get to say a goodbye (e.g. where I was aware that she could hear me etc, I obviously don't know if she could or couldnt hear me- because she appeared unconscious or gone once I found her). It was the complete opposite with my Dad - we had some time to talk with him (he was deemed terminal). Also, my mom also had a cardiac arrest, but they could not revive her.

 

I had to seek out counselling/grief support. I surrounded my as much as I could with good people.  I am so sorry. If you want to chat/talk, please email me, and I will do what I can to listen.

 

Mark

Permalink Reply by Stanley Ruiz on March 3, 2013 at 11:14am

I know hoe you feel.I ,I lost someone i loved and he was shot in the heart and died in my arms.It is not easy when we lose the people we love.Your brother in law is probably seeing everything you are going through.Be strong for his sake and think how he would want you to be during this sad period.Talk to him and he will hear you and cry because those tears are the way of honoring your brother in law.Stanley

Permalink Reply by Debra A. Whitemaine on March 4, 2013 at 7:10am

Tuyanne,
I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't focus on the "everything happens in 3's". Focus on your memories and good times. Take care.