My husbands death 6 weeks ago

On the evening of December 14th, my husband was hit from behind by a speeding truck while he was making his last turn on his motor bike to come home. I am left with a 5 year old and an 8 year old with special needs. None of this is fair, it all sucks, and there are moments where taking one breath at a time is all I can do! I have learned already that there is so much change involved in all of this, including friendships, values, routines, and huge change within myself. I live on a very small island and the driver of the truck is my husbands friends brother in law which makes it even worse. But I made him come over to my house the night he was killed, to let him know that I will never hold this against him! Yes I will be angry, and yes there will be timed I will blame him, but I have forgiveness. It's like a knife in the heart every time I think of the kids growing up without their father who was so devoted and hands on and loved them more than anything in this world!

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Permalink Reply by ashish jose on January 29, 2016 at 11:21pm

Hi Rhiannon,

I can totally relate. My story is almost similar to yours but just 2 days apart. on 16th december my wife car was hit by a drunk truck driver. my 2 year old daughter survived the crash miraculously but i lost my wife.Please try to stay strong. If u get time go through my blog. It might help:

https://mylovemywifeblog.wordpress.com/

Permalink Reply by Rhiannon Thomas-Bethel on January 30, 2016 at 7:15am

Oh Ashish. It's amazing to think that when you are going through something like this, you think the world around you has stopped! But it's clear it hasn't. I am so sorry to read this news. She was beautiful. I did read your blog. It's wonderful. I'm working on a blog but don't really understand it all yet. The driver of the truck that hit and killed my husband was also drunk. We live in the Bahamas and there are no drinking and driving laws crazy enough. In fact we live on a 7 mile long island so the fact that this even happened still baffles me! Your baby girl is so young to know. Even my 5 and 8 (she has special needs and has a younger mentality) don't get it. I think if my husband were to show up today, it would be ok for them. There is so much change in all of this! Everything changes. Not only do we have to adjust to our 'new normal' but we have to adapt to the changes. I am at a stage where I long for signs that he is still with us and hasn't left us. He was the most hands on, devoted, proud, loving, and involved father I could have ever asked for! For me it's not one day at a time, but rather one breath at a time! One thing that has helped me, is to accept the help that has been offered, and be kind to yourself. You must apply your own oxygen mask before you can provide oxygen to your 2 year old. Please keep in touch. It's comforting to know I am not alone!

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