I lost my husband of 19 years on Feb. 6, 2011 to a massive heart attack. We were legally separated for 4 years, but we never divorced. We also had stayed great friends as we had 3 children together, only one of which was both of ours. Long story, but we both brought a son to the marriage and then we had a daughter together. But, even after separating, we were still friends and celebrated Christmas together with the children, birthdays, family gatherings, etc. Our children are b-26, b-24, and the baby is g-16.  I was just wondering if anyone else here has been in this position and how everything has gone for them since the death.