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Permalink Reply by Kandi Broussard on November 26, 2010 at 1:17pm

Lean on God. I don't know if you are a Christian but I can't imagine having to go through this without Christ strengthening me. It does NOT make the pain go away but it keeps you from being completely crazy.

Permalink Reply by melissa fulmer on November 26, 2010 at 1:22pm

Thank you. it is haird thing to deal with. some days are ok and then i find that others i cant stop crying thinking about my sister. and then to see it on the news and in the newspaper last week, it just brings me back to the beginning.

Permalink Reply by Kandi Broussard on November 26, 2010 at 1:30pm

yep--- my mom's murder is such a big media event. they just don't get that it is extraordinarily hurtful. To them it is just the biggest story. To me--- the biggest nightmare.

Permalink Reply by melissa fulmer on November 26, 2010 at 1:34pm

im so sorry to hear that. when we read whats in the paper and noticed details that we know are not fact, it makes us angry because people dont know the true story.

Permalink Reply by Kandi Broussard on November 26, 2010 at 1:38pm

OMG! Same thing happened here!! The media made my 67 year old, disabled mother out to be like some big drug dealing gangsta!!!!! It soooo infuriates me

Permalink Reply by melissa fulmer on November 26, 2010 at 1:47pm

that is so wrong! these people dont care about anything but what makes a good story. my sister died a painless death, at least thats what we hear. i cant even imagine what you are dealing with. again, i am so sorry. that really breaks my heart to hear what happened to your mother.

Permalink Reply by jessie peyton on November 27, 2010 at 3:31pm

i an sorry about your sister if i lost mine id be lost as shes my best friend aswell

Permalink Reply by melissa fulmer on November 30, 2010 at 8:34am

Thank you Jessie. i hope things begin to get a bit easier to deal with for the both of us. its so hard though. Breanne and I were very close. I helped raise her and there is such an age difference between us that she was more then a sister to me. i would have done anything for her.

Permalink Reply by anne on December 5, 2010 at 12:18am

Talk about your sister to whoever will listen. Dont hold the greif in. You are young and your life is just begun. I am so sorry for your loss. Just take one thing one day at a time.Try to set goals but only one at atime. Those of us who get left behind have to figure out a way to get through the tough stuff. It's never easy and it always hurts but after awhile the pain gets different and the sadness begins to subside slowly.

Permalink Reply by melissa fulmer on December 6, 2010 at 9:26am

thank you anne. i appreciate that. i cant believe next weekend will be one year since we lost her. i dont know how i am going to take it.

Permalink Reply by anne on December 6, 2010 at 2:49pm

Dear Melissa,
Just do the best you can whatever that may be.

Permalink Reply by Karen R. on December 5, 2010 at 11:09am

Greetings Melissa, sweetheart, I am sorry that you have all of this pain over the loss of your sister. This world can really be unkind sometimes. No one else understands our pain unless they have experienced it. I am suffering the loss of my 21yr old son. He lost his life due to him taking a ride on his best friend's motorcycle! I have NOT been able to accept what has happened to my son. This site is good because it allows you to express yours thoughts and your pain to others that can understand. My son passed away 14 months ago and I still feel the same as I did the day he passed away. For me, as time goes by, my pain and my worries have increased, especially my anger. There is no text book way to grieve. My daughter, 19 yrs old, his little sis, is having a difficult time, She can NOT accept what has happened to her brother and deals with it now by pretending that he is on a long trip somewhere and that he is fine. I just allow her to deal with it in her own way and I will defend her to the max if anyone tries to tell her that she is wrong. This is her coping mechanism that keeps her from wanting to kill herself. My younger son deals with it the same way and will only speak of his big brother in the present tense. We had a big icecream cake( his favorite ) for his 22nd birthday. His cousins and some of his friends all came over to sing happy birthday, it helped me a little to get through that day because it made me feel like he is not forgotten. I am determined that no one ever forgets him. Your sister had a life and is NOT just a "memory"! She is soooo much more than that! Never let anyone forget her. When people ask you how are you doing, tell them the truth. Love Karen R.

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