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thanx lorraine, i think youre right too. there really is no right or wrong, and the beautiful thing here is that there is just no judgement here amongst each other. truth is, we have all been hit with the most shocking, unbearably painful, and overwhelming trauma - that of losing our children. and here we are to share this pain. and we each do what it is that can help us through the day. a life changing thing has happened, and we cannot "adapt" to it - but we have to cope. we have to function.
my anxiety, panic attacks, insomnia at nights, excessive daytime sleepiness, etc etc etc - are disabling. i just HAVE to do what i can to cope - for now its medication which sometimes helps TREMENDOUSLY, and other days makes no difference at all. weird. or maybe not so weird. love love <3
I had to go to customer site, first time since my son's passing. The people know me and my son well. They never mentioned anything and I felt the pressure; it eased later. When I was able to work alone, I shed a tear. I wish my son was back, that is not much to ask.
I have been taking lorazepam since Silas died; I recently stopped taking it and miss it. I just decided that I would reserve it for panic attacks only. Not sure if I am doing the right thing. I don't think there is a right or wrong way to do this though, just an individual way of getting through the days and nights. Some people who have never drank a day in their lives drink, some use medications, some probably use prayer. I imagine all of us feel lost some of the time, regardless of what we do to help get through... Stephanie, I like what you wrote; and it is so true, this is the most shocking life changing experience... sending love to all
i take a sleeping pill each night. otherwise cant sleep and cant function the next day. its just the way it is, what can i say. not ideal, but then life isnt ideal!
This is a wonderful video from a local radio personality who lost his precious baby son 4 yrs ago today. It's a little long but soooooo worth the listen! Hope it brings some comfort to hurting hearts today. It did to mine. Hugs to you Lisa
I have been suffering from insomnia on and off since my son pased away. I am going through another phase of it the last 2-3 wks. It's really bad and i am so exhausted. I toss and turn all night thinking about my son. A couple of days before my son's funeral, my doctor called in a script for Ambien and Xanax. I did take the Xanax the day before and the day of my son's services but in the couple of months that followed, I flushed the rest all down the toilet because I was too tempted to take them all. I don't need that temptation again, I don't need it to be easily accessible. I guess I'll just suffer through it. I am thinking about trying yoga, it has been suggested to me by a few people.
Robin, I think you are lucky to have someone to look after. I wish I had kids or grandkids.
I have to admit I do take an over the counter sleep aid, but I have had a problem with sleeping way before Zach died. I'm that age, where it is so much harder to fall asleep and stay asleep and I watch my two granddaughters most days so I have to be alert and able to deal with them. I am you too Anna, I swear if I try to stay awake for a show I really want to watch I fall asleep watching it but as soon as I go back to bed to sleep I'm wide awake it is so frustrating. I too don't drink but I'm not going to it has crossed my mind. I have been sober for 30 years and this has definitely been tough, even though I know drinking would only be a temporary relief, Zach's death would still be staring me in the face when I sobered up and then I would just have a hang over too on top of that. No thanks.
Im not a great one to give advice on sleeping. It is after midnight and here I am....
Sometimes going for a walk after supper will help me sleep that night. Often I can fall asleep with a tv show on that isnt too interesting that it makes me want to stay awake to watch it but it doesnt annoy the heck out me either. I like game shows best for beating the sleep depriver. And yes, one drink can help but if the need for more than one is there then I think I would choose to not have any either.
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