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Yesterday was the 3rd year mark of our son's death. Several close friends & family called or emailed me to let me know they were thinking of me (I so appreciate people not forgetting), and so I made it through the day. Today I feel even more emotional than yesterday. Even after three years, my mind still goes back to the time line of events of that day and the days that followed. I try to tell myself not to go there, but it's hard not to. His birthday was the 2nd of Jan. and he would have been 25. I miss everything about him and I really miss being able to 'mother' him. I always enjoyed him coming over for a meal or taking him a surprise treat to where he worked. I had a dream which seems so long ago now, but in it he was alive and he came and gave me such a huge hug. When I woke up, I could still feel the hug. Oh how I wish I could have one of those dreams again soon. It brings comfort, even if for only a short while.
Lorraine, I like that.... the hawk being a messenger from the spirit. Karen, I hawks are around but not as common to see as robins, cardinals, sparrows and such. They are beautiful when they do appear. They are large and just so majestic.
Robin, yes... when it gets closer to the 3rd of each month, my sorrow deepens.
Hugs to you all here on this site. Namaste, my friends.
I honestly dont know if it was a red tail or not but for the first time in 24 years that we have lived in this house in town I saw a hawk hanging around my back yard last year. I cant remember if I noticed it before we knew Tom was sick or not. But it was very strange. I saw it several times just sitting near the top of the big tree in my back yard. I do remember telling my daughter to not let her little chihuahuas out in the yard by themselves because of him. Makes me wonder now if it was somehow trying to tell us what was coming. hummmm.........
Just saying hello to everyone and sending my sincere love and hugs to all.
Wow, red tailed hawks, I didn't know that, i don't think I've ever noticed one, just red robbins, especially on our deck. are these red tailed hawks everywhere?
Having a really hard time tonight, missing Zach so very much. Starting to have feelings of anxiety, overwhelming sadness and just so lost. Rosie, Zach lost his life on the 3rd of September and always when it is getting close to the third of every month I feel like I relive it all over again. I wonder if that feeling ever goes away. Its that feeling of total despair. How can this be that I will never see my precious boy, just to hug him one more time, tell him I love him. God I miss him so much. Robin
Rosie, I love the red tailed hawks, they are the "messengers" from the spirit life, so it is told by Native Americans. It is amazing how the date of other months seep into our minds when it is "the day" of our child dying. My son passed over on the 27th of May, and most often the 27th of any month stands out. As for people eating or not eating, that is so common when we are going through this. I lost so much weight the first year, I was down to about 95 lbs. Then slowly I started to put it back on; first I would choke on the thought of eating anything, I had to force myself. Then I went to comfort food and gained. Now I go back and forth. I do believe that our children are around after they pass over, and it seems that playing with electricity is one way of letting us know. Silas has come through in many ways, and it always gives me comfort and makes me smile. Brenda, I do think that regardless of one's belief's, the loss of a child is like that of no other, and our faith is often shaken or changes. For some it helps, for others not so much. It is very complicated. sending hugs to all
February 3rd is near, it marks 11 months since Sam has gone. Feelings of loss and tears are always around the corner, waiting to peek and darken my day. It still doesn't feel real sometimes..... he's gone. Really gone physically. I know in spirit he is around us all the time. I feel that he checks in on me and his dad. But it's just not the same, him being here.... being able to talk to him and see him.
It's so strange..... life goes on..... just wish he was still in our daily lives....our daily struggles, good days and bad, happy and sad, holidays, and just plain days of normal.
I haven't seen the red tailed hawk lately. In my darkest days, sometimes I look out and I see the hawk perched on a tree limb on our neighbor's tree. I always feel it's a sign from Sam when he shows up. The hawk always looks so out of place due to its size there perched on the tree branch... but somehow it gives me some comfort every time I see it.
Peace be to you my friends.
Adrianne,
It seems that you as well as many others, have questions about what happens to us when we die. If you would like to know what the Bible says, please let me know. What God promises is truly wonderful and I would love to share some encouraging scriptures with you.
Brenda
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