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Comment by Grace on June 27, 2012 at 1:40pm

I don't think any of us know....hard to believe somedays... many days...

Comment by Karen R. on June 27, 2012 at 12:39pm

Hey Adrianne, my feelings exactly!!! I just feel like screaming!!

Comment by Adrianne Edgerly on June 27, 2012 at 9:36am

I can't endure the waves of anxiety and pure pain. He's not coming home. I miss his physical body. I'm so confused. I don't know where he is. This is torture.

Comment by Ammy on June 26, 2012 at 9:08am

Michelle, I think there will always be times that our eyes will fill with tears.  It can be anything that does it.  I agree that we now see the complaints of other parents about their kids as trivial, but did we before?  We are human and it's natural to complain.  I complained about things with my son, as with my my daughters, but I always loved them and forgave them.

I would love to see my grandbaby, but her mom has now stopped letting us see her because I kept talking to her about some possible abuse.  Things my granddaughter would say or how she would react caused not just me, but my husband and daughters to think something was not right.  She has always visited with us since she was born.  We had her here from 2 to 6 days out of the week.  I worry more about the emotional damage this is doing to her.  First losing her Daddy and now her PopPop who seemed to have taken his place.

I did call the lawyer and he saw us yesterday afternoon.  So, hopefully it won't be too much longer and she will be back visiting us.

Take care all.  I have to go.  Phone.

Comment by Michelle W on June 25, 2012 at 4:42pm

Well thank you for being there this group seems to help me the most... I just thought if any of you new the secret of what works the best I would be willing to try ... I have recently gone to work again and just finding many things that are hard to cope with... Aka people around me complaining about their children not going to bed on time on summer break..they may not no better but I just want to say hey enjoy it. My son will never wake up again... Then I found when people I don't know give me that I'm so sorry about what happened.. I just start crying... I'm there to escape my horrible life and it just makes ignore real... Anyways thank you...I feel everything you all say Ammy you should spend time with your sons daughter and Grace I think your mother and brother just don't understand I pity them that was your child need I say more... I would and did give the world to my children... That's what you are there for to unconditionally love you children... I just feel sorry for those who don't understand...They are our babies...

Comment by Karen R. on June 25, 2012 at 2:56pm

Hello to all. I find this site and others like it, to be all the support I need. I attended a group before but I knew right away it was not for me. My family use to push me to try a one to one counselor but I felt like I don't need anyone telling me that grief is normal or explain the phases of grief. I just don't see how it would benefit me. 

Comment by Ammy on June 25, 2012 at 9:14am

Good morning all.  Another week is starting and I so want to see/feel a change, but.......

Two years is coming up for us on July 14th.  I don't think we will do anything this year, but we did last year and I'm glad we did.  So, to Dick, I would say do it.  It's a part of moving on even if only a small part.  I now have the pictures and video from that day and in a strange way it's nice to see those that cared for him coming together in his memory.

As most of you have experienced, they now are moving on with their lives and I would expect nothing less.  This is life, and it does move on for others.  Even my own life is moving on whether I want it to or not.  I can't stop life.  My youngest daughter is expecting a baby boy in October and as much as I'm happy for her I feel like I'm just going through the motions.  Then I feel guilty, and I don't need to add that guilt to my grieving.  Enough is enough.

I also miss my son's daughter so much and just getting myself to call the lawyer is something I haven't been able to do, but this morning I told myself I will call and make an appointment.  I need to file these custody/visitation papers.

I'm still sorry for all that each of you are also going through.  I think we wish we could find a fix for this, but in reality we know there is none.  Just know you all are in my thoughts and prayers and I pray that this will be a kinder week for you.  ❤

 

Comment by Grace on June 25, 2012 at 8:48am

I have been having a hard time with this year's Benefit... I feel like everyone has forgotten about my son and no longer cares for the mission of our fund to help other people with special needs.... Yet I still get calls from families needing a shower or something to help them.... Even though some are encouraging... it is like they want me to just bury my son and forget this Mission.  And the fact that Zimmerman was able to get all that money after taking a poor teenager's life and others getting big donations because they were teased about being fat.... I mean WAY More Money than I ever Raised to help others in Memory of my son... it just floors me.

I am disheartened by the world... and my brother and Mother who just seem not to even care about anyone's feelings... I am in a Funk and I don't know if I am gonna get out of it ..... YES I want everyone to remember my son... he did exist.

Comment by lynne thompson on June 25, 2012 at 8:33am

I experienced this when my first son, died NO one mentioned him and the same goes with the death of my Terry, and people wonder why we isolate ourselves?? I was seeing a counselor and her remark to the me the second visit was " gee I have never worked with a person that has lost 2 children......that was the end of her........I read bereavement books and that is my help.......ugh , this is so terrible......I agree.

 

Comment by Grace on June 25, 2012 at 5:19am

Michelle.... this group has been my counseling... I have not gone to any groups or grief counseling... My husband and I have tried a marriage counselor but I quit.... I really did not think she was helping... and she had not lost a child and maybe the "You need to let go of the past" retoric works for others but when you have a child that dies.... it is a past we all cling to for memories and the marrital issues may be different?  but when I found this online group I felt like there were others who have the same emotions and experiences.

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