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Hi.... Yesterday I went for a "Stress Test" because I have been feeling pressure in my shoulder.... and even though I feel like I wish I could just drop dead from a heart attack... well maybe I should get it checked out.
2 months ago, a child that recieved a "Random Act Of Kindness check" from our fund died unexpectedly. And Our family just ached for knowing her parents were about to "Join this group" of sadness.
Yesterday as I was explaining to the Cardiologist that I could just be suffering from anxiety or PTSD because I lost my son at 14 years old, the lady assisting him was related to the young girl who had just passed.... as the test ended and I found out I was "Normal"... and the doctor left the room. we shared tears... she apologized because it is so unprofessional for her to cry in front of a paitient... I said "No, you are human." we hugged and cried and shared our losses.... and I said it had been 3 years and I don't think we will ever "Get Over it". She talked about the mother of the child and how devestated she has been. Both of us lost special needs children. and Karen, I was thinking the same thing as you, after 3 years, it seems like no one cares anymore that we lost our child.... time should be done and we should be "Over it"..... and I am still not "Over it"... how long would it take for them to be "Over it?"
Well My heart is "Normal" But it is still broken with big gapping holes in it. I guess I can not expect to have a sudden heart attack and be done with this life..... although my brain sure thinks I am ready to die from this pain.
Just wanted to stop in say hello to everyone , life is difficult , sad , confusing , its i cant explain it in words there are no words for how i feel im sure all of you can relate to this i have been reading alot of books tryin to find some comfort but have found little as of yet ...just wanted to say hello to all the moms and dads living like we do after losing our child/children
Hey everyone, I see it's been quiet. It's been hard for me to get on emotionally. Added to my frustration and sadness, I learned that my son's memorial was taken down !!! :(
I was told that it was taken down by the Town. There were at least 3 others on this street, including my son's which was the latest addition, that were all removed. This was such a kick in my gut and my throat! It is rumored that residents were complaining. How dare they!!!! I bet they all have their children, who could be that heartless?!!! I just feel like punching whoever in their face!!!! All I had was a 8 by 10 photo with a flower border around it stapled to a tree at the intersection, it's been there 2yrs and 11 months, why now? He had a life, for goodness sake, he's someone's child, brother, grandson, nephew, cousin and someone's friend!!!!! I feel so violated. My son is not a mere 'memory', I say it over and over again.....his life was not a figment of my imagination. I am going to continue to put one up, I don't care, I'll do it everyday if I have to. Thanks for letting me vent!
I never read Melanie's autopsy report...I asked a very trusted atoorney friend of mine to do it and tell me anything he felt I had to know...my family Dr. of many , mnay years also read it...I couldn't..still can't 15 years later..it's made no difference..she still doesn't call...I still haven't seen her...I do know she died instantly which is some sort of comfort...I know she died from multiple blunt force trauma..which is a generic answer...it doesn't matter...all that matters is she is gone...try not to struggle over this..my Melanie was not viewable..that was the hardest for me...not to be able to kiss her goodbye...not to see her...and to have my mind wonder with unimaginable thoughts for so many years....I had to come to terms with the fact that she was gone and it didn't much matter why/how just that she was or I would have truly lost my mind...she took my husband on her birthday...I believe it was a message to me...and done for me.....and that will always give me some sort of peace from my little girl...she is truly an Angel.....PEACE!
Sherry Ray, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO OPEN IT..... until you are ready... it is not going to change anything....she is still going to be gone and you are still going to hurt. What ever you read in the report is not ever going to be as bad as this.... BUT BE GENTLE with yourself.... You Do Not have to do anything until YOU are ready..... even if it is never.... even if you put the report in a drawer and never look at it.... But keep it because maybe someday... maybe... you will be ready to read it.... but for now.... You do not have to do it. Everything that is in that report you already know.... Sadly..... PEACE
I got the autopsy report and I don't want to open it. I have fooled myself into believing that she is not gone and that she will call soon. Bri was always bad about running out of minutes and sometimes she would get them immediately or wait for weeks. Everyone tries to be supportive but they do not understand. The constant pain and struggle everyday just to get through. I miss Bri and Harley so very badly.
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