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Comment by Connie K on January 14, 2013 at 5:15pm

First day back at work. So hard to keep it together. So hard while life just keeps on going while you are dying inside. I only work 2 days a week so I could take Daniel to his doctors appts. He had Crohn's Disease and other complications but that had nothing to do with his death. But now what? I only had one child. He was my life. God I miss him so much more and more every second....

Comment by Robin Jone on January 14, 2013 at 7:00am

I too attend Compassionate Friends meetings, I am only sorry that they only have them once a month. I always say that those are my Zach times. I can say whatever I want, and can share my memories of him, and of course I always cry but I always feel better after I leave. I can usually walk away from it feeling like someone else has had something worse happen to them in their life. I am thankful that at least when Zach died he was with his friends and having a wonderful time. There are so many who have lost their child through horrific means. My brother attends the Compassionate Friends meetings in Pittsburgh where sometimes they offer home meetings. I think that is a great idea because I know our meetings will sometimes last hours because that is the only time we meet. I think if we met elsewhere another time in the month it would not last as long. That has been our groups biggest complaint that the meetings last too long. It is not for everyone though, I get a lot out of it, but my husband doesn't go every time I go. You have to see what helps you.

Comment by Connie K on January 13, 2013 at 11:27pm

I have attended one meeting of Compassionate Friends and it is a wonderful group. Perhaps it was too early for us to go because it was painful but it is always a great resource for others you can call for whatever questions may come up. I plan on going back. They say for any support group to gibe it 3 times before deciding if it id for you. because each meeting can be very different.

Comment by Michele Hayes on January 13, 2013 at 9:00pm

Dick- we attended Compassionate Friends before we moved. It was very helpful. Justin started attending therapy at first, but the therapist just did not understand. As painful as it is, I think it is good to get it out and face my life.

Comment by Dick on January 13, 2013 at 8:55pm

This last week has been hard for me. I attended a Compassionate Friends and a hospital support group. I wonder if it makes me feel worse and dredge up memories. I always sob when talking about Danny, I miss him so much.

Last night at my sister in laws house we were eating as an extended family and she has photos of my son displayed with his cousins. I just started looking and feeling my loss. I had to excuse myself and leave.

I am sponsoring Angels Across America music tour in Danny's memory. If it comes to your town be sure to go. Mitch Carmody and Alan Pedersen are good musicians for the grieved. They have some YouTube videos that are good.

Comment by Connie K on January 12, 2013 at 11:13pm

Yes it's true. Every day is different. I can't watch them often but the ones I have,he is being so funny that I can't help but smile for a moment. So I feel like I had a little visit.

Comment by Karen R. on January 12, 2013 at 9:41pm

Yeah, I have days that I can watch videos of my son, even though I sob while watching and their are other days I can't even think about watching them.

Comment by Michele Hayes on January 12, 2013 at 8:43pm

Its been about 15 months for me and it is still hard for me to watch videos of Ivy. Although I am sooo grateful that I have  them. About a month after she died, I watched a video of her and it just about killed me.

Comment by Connie K on January 12, 2013 at 7:32pm

Robin

 I am so sorry you lost those videos. I know what you mean. I lost my only son on Dec. 1 2012 and can hardly deal with it. I get so much joy from the 2 videos that I have found on his computer and have found others through his friends. They are treasures and so sorry for more pain in your life from a thoughtless theft. It sure wasn't supposed to be this way at all. Not at all.

Comment by Karen R. on January 12, 2013 at 12:38pm

Marti, so sorry, my worst nightmare came true also. I begged my son not to ever ride his friend's motorcycle again.

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