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Comment by Ammy on February 28, 2013 at 6:26pm

Thinking of you all and feeling your grief along with my own.  Sorry to see we have new members ans so sorry for your loss(es), but this is a good place to be since you had no choice in this. 

I know I posted on Saturday and responded to Adrianne and Dennis and posted something I received from a friend, but I don't see it here.  I probably forgot to hit the 'Add Comment' button.  

Felt like I was adjusting for awhile, but 'IT' came back again and my mind has been partially absent again.  Some days I can't stop it from racing to the past, to the future, to the now.  I'm empty, I'm broken, I'm lost, I'm lonely.  I keep thinking, It should have been me.

I'm still waiting for answers from the DA, the Coroner, and the Board of Physicians.  Hoping all this will be over by July.  I keep telling myself that the 3 year mark will make a difference, but I am probably just fooling myself and I have to fool myself some days just to get through.

I have looked for that writing I wanted to share but I can't seem to find it right now, and that doesn't surprise me either.

Sending you all blessings & hugs.  ♥ ˚ ˚✰˚ ˛★* 。 ღ˛°  °♥ ˚  

Comment by Shaun Cornell on February 27, 2013 at 10:00pm

ty all for ur support, and comments. My heartfelt words go out to u as well. Loss is a difficult thing to go through, and even moreso when doing it alone. Its always nice to have somewhere to go, and chat, and some1 who listens, and knows what its like. So, ty all again. God Bless

Comment by Karen R. on February 27, 2013 at 9:46pm

Hi Shaun, I give you my heartfelt condolences.....so sorry. We can really be dealt some awful cards in this thing they call life. Sometimes I feel like this life is like some kind of cruel joke. These "things" always happen to someone else....we never think that we could be the "someone else".

Comment by Karen R. on February 27, 2013 at 9:34pm

Hello Kari, I am so sorry that yet another is experiencing this kind of pain. As I read your posting, I thought to myself, your words are my words. I understand that intense anger. Sometimes I feel like I could kick a tree down, I feel like I will explode, sometimes my silent cries turn into sobbing, then screaming. I don't understand this "thing", I don't see how I will have peace within. I can only hope for it, for surely this torturous....just one problem, I only see the solution to being able to have my son back, I want him back, I want my life back, I am living but not alive. I just want to wake up from this nightmare.

Sending hugs

Comment by Kari Hurley on February 27, 2013 at 8:46pm

Thank you for all the support, god knows I need it. Most days I don't know if I am coming or going, I sleep maybe 3 hours a night, I have to be reminded to eat. My anger is so extreme and my heart is shattered. I was devistated after my parents died but nothing comparison to this pain. I have so many questions, I call and get no return calls. They know I am 4 states away and really he was in prison so to them he was a number, but to me he was my son, a brother and uncle who just made some bad choices. I have yet to receive his death certificate. I honesty feel like I am going to lose it and I don't want to be here I just want to be with my son and parents. I have shut everyone out because when I do talk to them I lose my temper (I don't throw or hit, but afraid I might) so it's best I just stay away from family and friends.

Comment by Connie K on February 27, 2013 at 4:59pm

Hi Shaun

 I am so sorry for all of your pain. I too will never forget the officer and coroner coming to my house that. night. But I already knew because the driver's jerk of a brother posted it on Facebook. I had to just wait for them to arrive and hope it was wrong. Nothing will ever be the same and I hope I can find the strength to make it through this life without him, my Daniel, my only child and sweet angel boy.

It is too much grief. I wish I could help take some away. I just read "Proof of Heaven" by Eben Alexander. Very interesting and somewhat comforting. God bless. Connie

Comment by Shaun Cornell on February 27, 2013 at 3:57pm

This is my first time coming to the grp. I lost my son/daughter inlaw last on July 13th, a friday last yr. I will nvr look at that date the same. They were in a headon collision, and died on the scene. I lost my mother the yr b4 to cancer. We didn't know she had it, she nvr complained, or anything. She went to the hospital one day, and a wk l8r she was gone. We did bring her bk to her home to pass so she was there. Ive gone through many losses, but this last one, was the worse.

Ive not took time to grieve, Ive just buried it along w/my kids. Ive been helping the family deal w/all their problems. Im hoping coming here will help some.

My husband was in the hospital recently, and almost passed as well. But, luckily they were able to save him. I don't think I could handle another loss, especially my husband. He has been my rock through all of this, to lose him would push me over the edge.

I wish I would've insisted my kids come to my home, instead of going to theirs that day, then I might still have them here. I was on the phone w/them just minutes b4 the crash. I will nvr, ever forget the policeman coming to my door. I pray to all of u who have children, nvr go a day w/o telling them you love them. I had that last chance to do that. But, it isn't the same as tellin them in person.

Too much grief in such a short time takes it toll on a person. I pray to all of you, I hope that God will ease ur pain, and make ur grief a bit more tolerable. Nothing will bring them bk, but time may heal the pain.

God Bless you all.

 

Comment by Dennis C. on February 23, 2013 at 7:22am

Please forgive me if this is not helpful.

I am providing a link that takes you to an article that discusses the pain of losing a child, but also comfort by supplying hope for the future.

http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2007321#h=0:0-32:90

The hopelessness that we feel when we lose someone that we love so much cannot be expressed in words. They heart (I believe) gets a hole in it that can not be filled or healed.

Comfort doesn't take the pain away, but it can offer some hope and this can give us purpose when we need it.

Comment by Adrianne Edgerly on February 23, 2013 at 12:59am

Went out with a few friends. Had a nice visit. Then cried my way home. Miss my son.

Comment by Karen R. on February 14, 2013 at 10:19pm

Hello Kari, so sorry that you have joined our "club", I haven't been on in awhile but have been a member more than 3 yrs now. I haven't lost a parent but I know the pain all too well relating to losing your child. My pain and sorrow is as fresh today as it was when my nightmare first began. It still bewilders me that I can actually say that I am a member of such a group, I will NEVER accept what has happned to my son. You will find a lot of support here, thats for sure. No one will judge or criticize your thoughts and feelings. My hearts with yours as well as all parents that are walking in our shoes.  Sending you many hugs.

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