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Comment by Connie K on June 6, 2013 at 8:52pm

All circumstances are different. In this case I am referring to the person who stole him from us because of a stupid act. If I didn't believe that Daniel thrives in the arms of God, I couldn't go on. I am thankful for that. We are just left on this earth to ponder what is it that we are to learn from the most horrific pain you can feel. Everyday I just try to do something that as a parent, I would have liked to see him do. But, man - it is hard. It is a constant mental emotional spiritual battle to keep my head above water even though I know his spirit lives on. I just miss him so much and don't know how to move on. I feel paralyzed right now. I think I am still in shock. Thanks for sharing your poem Marilyn. One thing that helps my husband and I is a verse Daniel left with us when my husband's best friend died  5 years ago. He wrote: "Those who have passed do not wish to be mourned, they wish to be celebrated." From his own lips - who would have ever thought at the time that a 12 year old would be so wise and prophetic. So that is what we try to always do - celebrate him and his life. And I know he would want us to do that with our own lives. The question for me now, is how? Thanks for listening everyone. I really do appreciate this website and all of you. I hope you all find one beautiful thing in the world today, if even for a moment.

Comment by Vasanthi S on June 6, 2013 at 12:36pm

Marilyn, Your poems are simply beautiful..no words to describe it.. been feeling very out of sorts and miss my son so deeply , never thought i would have to live without him...the tears don't stop.. 

Connie, yes stolen is the word... but again I am reminded that god does not take-- he receives, so our sons are received and who better than the spiritual parent to take care? yet the heart aches and pines,reason seems unreasonable,life seems bereft of any joy.. all changed in one split second... well there's nothing to be done but walk thorugh this also. Just happy that Shreyas knew how much he was loved and that he was totally secure in that knowledge.. take care all.. I'm going to try and sleep-- 

Comment by Connie K on June 6, 2013 at 11:52am

Marilyn-

That's what we told the judge during the hearing for the person who made such a reckless an arrogant driving  judgement call that resulted in Daniel's death. The term bereave means  "to be robbed or stolen from." Our son was stolen from us, his future, ours. Like a thief in the night with no warning.... i love your poem

Comment by Michelle H on June 6, 2013 at 11:42am

Marilyn, Thursdays are really hard for me, too. Today is 10 weeks.

Comment by Michelle H on June 6, 2013 at 10:34am

Marilyn, you express so beautifully what's in your heart. My condolences on this one month anniversary of Brandon's passing. I know your heart aches.

Shelley, please don't allow one person's opinion about what you should do about your son's dog discourage you from posting here. You are the only person who knows what's right for you. You certainly deserve to get and give support on this site.

Comment by Teresa D. on June 6, 2013 at 10:03am

Marilyn Matthews your poems obviously come from deep in your heart.

"Stolen" touched me personally. Thank you for sharing it. 

Comment by Shelley on June 6, 2013 at 5:01am

That's beautiful Marilyn. You are in my thoughts and prayers today and always.

Comment by Shelley on June 5, 2013 at 9:01pm

Thank you Karen.. it's good to know I'm not alone on this. I thought about not posting here any more because I was told I should give her his things because I should miss him more than I would his things. I miss him so very much some days I barely function. And I don't think his dog or any animal is a thing. I was hurt on here and not sure if I want to go thru any more hurt. Also his girlfriend is a eelcome addition in my life and as long as she wants to be in my life I will love her and give her support.

Comment by Karen R. on June 5, 2013 at 8:36pm

Hey Shelley, I understand the jealousy so well, it's probably more envy than anything else. I go through this with my son's friends. Seeing them going on with their lives makes me feel like they're forgetting him like he never existed...I know that sounds irrational and is probably not true but nevertheless, that's how I feel. I feel like the sun should never rise again because my son is not here. In my opinion, you have every right to keeping your son's dog, maybe I'm pushy but I probably wouldn't have even asked to tell the truth. The girlfriend should've offered. You will always be his mom but she may have not always been his girlfriend. I hope your son's dog brings you some comfort no matter how small it may be.

Comment by Grace on June 5, 2013 at 6:14pm

Well.... I lost my first husband when I was 21... And as I said earlier... I buried him next to his Mom...but I was very offended that his Dad did not recognize that he was married and happy with me....  yet after time I did find new love and then married my current husband had 3 children... then lost our Niles.....Losing my son has been the worst!  Yet because I was a young Widow.... I feel that side too.   It has been 30 plus years and I still carry the love that I have for my first husband...but my life has been a novel full of chapters....many I wish I did not have... especially losing my son.

My husband (#1) Parents did come to my and Wedding and befriended my #2 husband.... and his sister (Husband#1) came to the hospital when I was losing my son from husband #2  And it really meant a lot.   It still gave me the feeling of connection to my first husband and his family... I visited and went to weddings... it was distant but yet it helped resolve some of the hurt I had with his Dad not changing his grave Stone....but 30 years later... I still hurt about that.... and now my father-in-law is dead too....   My how the years have passed.... but I still carry that love... as we all will with our kids..... forever.

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