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Dolly, Thanks.. am settling in and Craig does everything to see that its easy.. just feel at times that its all a little surreal.. I sometimes keep wishing I could just call Micks and tell him all the little daily things..then i wonder where the hell he is,Do come and visit and stay at any time you want..I will take good care of u.. thats a promise..
Anne, it hurts to even think that we are talking about the 'beauty of their lives' and such things.. just brings home how awful this is..
Karen, I want to stop counting the time , u know what I mean? yet December looms large and 23rd Dec it will be two years.. my heart feels heavy that so much of time has passed and so much has happened without me seeking it and so much more will happen in this lifetime which will remain unshared :( not good friends, not good to bear such a huge burden and try and try and try to live well.
Yeah Anne, I know what you mean.
The end is usually just the beginning.
It hurts awfully bad when a beautiful life is taken away from us.
But they are never really taken away, because the beauty of their life lives on within our hearts.
Dolly, the dragon fly picture filled my heart with joy, and peace today. Thank you!
Karen I know just how you feel. I wish I could stop counting the time that goes by. Have never figured out how to stop it. When I say my beautiful little boy has been gone 15 years it makes me a little sick to my stomach. Just saying 6 for my Ben hurts deep. Just one more thing to have to deal with on this journey.
I lost control today, was hard to get it back. I was so overwhelmed with just thinking about how long my son has been gone and dreading how one day I'll be saying he's been gone for 5yrs, 10yrs, 20yrs......it feels like it just happened yesterday, I guess that's why I hate counting the time that has passed. Has anyone else experienced this.
Dolly, thanks for sharing your lovely pics.
Good for you Dolly! I'm so happy you had a good day!
I have 2 tats. One is on my right shoulder. It's a small batch of denim colored roses, and represents the friends I love. There are 8 of us who have the same tattoo, but we each picked our own colors. My second one is of 4 dragon flies. Each dragon fly is the color of each one of my childrens birthstones. I did this when I was 48, after my Ben died. I decided to have all 4 of my children tattooed on my left leg because I didn't want my daughters to feel left out. Besides it was the best thing I have ever done for myself. When I'm outside at the farm dragon flies sit on my shoulder, and they comfort me. I thought my husband would not be happy with me, but when he saw the dragon flies on my leg he fell in love with them. When I get to feeling sad, and lonely I look at them, and touch them, and I don't know why but it makes me feel better. I was always one who said If God wanted me to have a tattoo he would've given me a birth mark! After Ben died I changed my mind. Plus I loved the pain that comes with tattooing. It was a pain I chose, and it helped me release some of the pain in my heart. When my Lil Del died I got my ear pierced at the top where the cartilage is so that when I couldn't control the pain in my heart I could twist the earring around and feel the pain on the outside. I pierced the ear on my left so it would be closest to my heart, as is my tatt of the dragon flies. Crazy? I don't think so! My earring, and my tattoo help me release some of the pain in my heart by feeling the pain on the outside. It was great therapy for me, and I love them! They are the best things I have ever done for myself since this all began! I like to take advantage of things that I can control since I couldn't control the deaths of my boys! I have never regretted my choice!
Hey Dolly, have you ever been tested for tinnitus? Tinnitus can cause terrible ringing in the ears, and can be treated.
Peace, and Love to all!
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