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Comment by Davi Burford on January 21, 2014 at 9:52am

Tough day so far I am trying to keep it together at work but not doing a great job. His birthday is today would have been 17 I remember how much we used to talk about what he was gonna do when he turned 18 and now he will never get that chance to even see 18 

Comment by Lynn Williams on January 21, 2014 at 8:26am

I so want to get out of winter and cold. My husband is fine but last night his truck skidded of the icy road and feel into a deep ditch.  Lots of damage to the truck.  It brought back the accident my daughter had this past summer.  I wish she could have been as lucky as my husband. Not a good day I miss Kyra so much.

 

Comment by Teresa D. on January 21, 2014 at 6:51am

Jessica, I was told by another parent year two is no better than year one.  While it was hard to hear it has prepared me and it let's me know as year one passes that I'm still ok.  It's okay I'm still crying every day, it's ok I think of Michael always, and it's ok I still hurt as if it was yesterday.  Would our children really expect us to step over this and just continue on? I don't think so.  

I went back and read the letter by Allison again. I think it is so heartwarming.  It's my inspiration today.  Going to try and think positive today. 

Comment by Jessica Berninzon on January 21, 2014 at 2:49am

been long time since i visited my daughter has been  gone 2 years on January  17 of this year the holidays were horrible the two year  mark is still in effect today dont know how much longer i can take this horrid nightmare.

Comment by Lynn Williams on January 20, 2014 at 8:26pm

Oh Jane you are going through a really bad wave. Is there a group for bereaved mothers in your area. Have you seen a counselor yet. Most friends can't deal with what we are going through. We are here for you. Reach out to a good friend I am so sorry you are having a god awful day

Comment by Jane P on January 20, 2014 at 8:11pm

My life has disappeared. I'm thinking I want to sell our house. I only kept it for my daughter. Now she's not here. No future is left. Just empty space. Waiting to go.

Comment by Jane P on January 20, 2014 at 8:08pm

I lay on the bathroom vanity with my face in the sink to catch my tears.

Comment by Jane P on January 20, 2014 at 8:06pm

I've been keeping my grief to myself for a long time. I have never even called a friend, even when I'm at the bottom. Not even once. It's so personal. I can't let anyone see me "that way".

Comment by Ammy on January 20, 2014 at 7:11pm

Jane you sound like me.  Solitude.  I usually keep all my grief to myself too.  I don't know if that's healthy but each of us has their way of handling things.  I probably do it because I've always been a private person and I've always been the one everyone depended on for taking care of problems.  I've always been the giver and not the taker, but that is because I felt comfortable in that role, but now when I need   I don't feel anyone's support so I'd rather be alone.  Even around my family I am alone.  I am alone here.  

Comment by Ammy on January 20, 2014 at 7:01pm

Teresa, of course you are hurt and angry.  The anger might go away but you will probably feel the hurt from your friend longer.

I had a friend for 34 years and we spoke several times a week.  When my son left this earth she came to visit one time and I never heard from her again until a couple of months ago when she found me on FB.  Her message to me was. "Why didn't you ever get in touch with me?"

I did write her a short message back explaining that we didn't get in touch with anyone.  We stayed to ourselves and still do most of the time.  She said something about how she knows how hard it must have been because she knows how upset she got when her daughter would disappear for a few days.  I responded that I couldn't think of anything to say at the time because I didn't want to get upset.  I never heard from her again.

There will always be those people because they don't have a clue and I can understand that.  I didn't have a clue until it happened to us.  It just can't be understood to it's full impact unless you live it

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