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Comment by Teresa D. on June 5, 2015 at 6:06am

Ladies don't focus on down the road just focus on where you are now.  I will agree the first year is very hard. But that is because we have to wrap our brains around our loss.  The second year yes is hard too because somewhere in it reality will hit you.  But you can only take one minute, hour, day....at a time. 

While we can't tell you the pain goes away we can only tell you what others told us and that is in time you will learn to manage it.  Does that mean you won't have days when you fall? No it doesn't. I still have days when I fall and need help getting back up but I am now at a place where I am accepting my reality. 

Right now you can't even begin to understand what "managing it" means but I promise in time it will come to you.  Again I see my progress through you and in time you will see your progress through others.

Comment by Jill E on June 5, 2015 at 1:00am

How could it get any worse than it is. I am so upset how could it get any worse. Please help us all.

WYWH Josh

Comment by Rj on June 4, 2015 at 9:58pm

Exactly sharon, i hear that too...that it only gets worse. Its been such a bad week, im sinking and feel so hopeless.

Comment by Sharon on June 4, 2015 at 9:54pm

It's so scary. People are telling me that the "firsts" are the worst, then other people tell me that the second year is even harder because the missing gets worse. I don't know if I can survive any more pain than I have now.

I'm sorry Jill. Every reminder is so painful. I wish I could take some of it away.

Comment by Rj on June 4, 2015 at 9:46pm

Do you think there will ever come a time when the calendar days will not only be a reminder of our sadness?? The so called firsts is certainly a killer i can say that. Dear God how do people survive this??

Comment by Jill E on June 4, 2015 at 9:37pm

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Rj I am so sorry. Unfortunately I know how you feel. I have this count down going on in my head...June 7 it will be 6 months of pain , grief sorrow with no end in sight. I feel like it is getting worse and will never get better. Once I get through this date then his birthday, August 5. I am a mess.

Big, big hugs Rj I wish I was close so I could give you one in person.
WYWH my baby

Comment by Jill E on June 4, 2015 at 9:36pm

My sister sent me this post from Sheryl Sandburg on FB. It is not about the loss of a child but the loss of a spouse. I wish I could feel the way she does about things. I relate to some of what she said but many are out of reach.
You can find it post on FB if you just search her name. Maybe something in it will make someone feel better. Love to all.

WYWH MY JOSHIE LOVE YOU

Comment by Sharon on June 4, 2015 at 2:17pm

((((Rj)))) hope your day gets better.

Comment by Rj on June 4, 2015 at 11:21am

Jill im sorry for everything that has happened, of course you are tired, thats more than enough to bring anyone to the edge. I so wish i had a derek to help in life and to love. I know it doesnt help with the other tragedies you have endured but you have him to love and focus on, he needs you so much, you are a wonderful and strong woman...one day at a time. Larry was my only child, i always wanted more children but his dad did not. To have more now i know would comfort me so much, just to hear the word mom again...

Comment by Rj on June 4, 2015 at 11:15am

Having pretty bad setback this morning. Been holding it together for the most part but cant stop balling this morning, staying home from work. The heartache truly is crippling when that wave hits.

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