My mother passed away in May of 2010 from Ovarian Cancer.  She died five months to the day she was diagnosed.  It was so quick and I didn't even have time to say goodbye to her.  One minute she was having her last chemo and was talkative and that night she turned blue and was rushed to ICU unconscious.  She never woke up.  What hurts me the most is that my parents kept my brother and I in the dark about how sick she really was.  We assumed she would go through the chemo and be fine, but that wasn't the case.

My dad started dating three months after mom passed and I can't visit my mother's grave as much as I would like to since she is buried up north.  I have been through counseling and taking antidepressants, which help, but I am still going through a hard time.  I am trying to get on with my life, but I miss her so much!  My brother and father seem to be coping well and I'm the one struggling.

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Dear Llana,

 

I understand the grief you are going through.  I'm sure it's been a roller coaster ride and unfortunately it's a ride that may never end.  it seems the stronger the bond the longer the ride will be.  please don't compare your grief to anyone - that will only drive you mad.  focus on getting better and drop the perception you have of your dad and brother (even if it's right).  your physical and mental health is invaluable and will help you inch your way to feeling some sort of balance.  I lost my mother on June 1, 2011 and I'm still devastated.  I cry everyday but the reality is she is gone and no matter how hard I cry she's not coming back.  I love my mom and that will always be with me.  I will miss her until the day I die and I will cry for as long as I have to.  the love you have for your mother is strong and the pain you feel is equally as strong.  keep moving forward.  make your mom proud and work on healing yourself.  your dad and brother may not be showing your their pain. 

Stay strong! 

im so sorry for your loss, and i sympathize because i lost my mom quickly too...i lost her within 2 weeks of diagnosis.....she had endometrial cancer.....i did get to say goodbye, but what unfairness and the unexpectance level is the hardest part....i feelfor you.....i visited hergravebut it was just a place, it didnt seem like her place of peace....she is with me...god bless...remember, YOUR NOT ALONE.....never,and god is there

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