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Permalink Reply by bluebird on July 11, 2015 at 4:07pm

Nicole,

I'm sorry for your loss, too.  {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

Permalink Reply by Fran on July 11, 2015 at 6:55pm

Oh Nicole!

I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn't matter how old one is or how long the relationship...It hurts big time and we all suffer!

Permalink Reply by Isabel Bammer on July 11, 2015 at 9:21pm

Hi Nicole! I am very sorry for your loss ! You are not alone ! I think this forum is giving all people who are suffering, comfort ! Sometimes not even the closest friend can understand what we are going trough ! Regards!Isabel

Permalink Reply by nicole irving on July 11, 2015 at 10:33pm

hi, i am sorry for your loss, i lost my fiancee the same way althou he was at work he was 49 and i have a 10yr old son and 19yr old daughter, passed away on the 18th of may. joining this site was the best thing i have done, making me realise everything i am feeling is normal and everyone is wonderful to talk to, i hope it helps you as it has me, being able to talk to people that truely understand. cheers nicole

Permalink Reply by Jeni on July 12, 2015 at 8:21pm

Nicole I'm very sorry about your loss, and I know the difficulties and the challenges. My partner died at home as well even though the paramedics managed to get his heart beating again, he died in my arms yesterday exactly 6 months ago. Everyday brings new challenges and the emotions just flow and so do the tears. I feel your pain and I know that one questions oneself could I have done something more, should I have carried out CPR faster more effectively etc. The reality is we tried our best, and even though the memories of those moments are imprinted in our minds, and Re appear we tried our best.
My partner said the same to me which always makes me wonder if somehow they knew or felt as if something was about to happen and they chose us to spend those beautiful last moments with us hoping that one day we will understand why. The journey is hard, very, and our children look to us to be there and that's important. We miss the person we love dearly, all the time and you know for me if the tables were reversed I know I would want my partner to know that I'm gone physically but not in soul or spirit. We hold them close, we love them deeply and in all we do,they are with us. Our love for them never changes and never will,and in the last words they wanted us to know, I'm sure of of it, that their love for us will continue in other ways for us, through our children, in legacies and in our hearts and minds......sending Luv and hugs ur way ....Jeni

Permalink Reply by Dani on September 20, 2015 at 9:09pm

Hi Nicole,

I am truly sorry for your loss. I too just lost my husband 3 weeks ago, very suddenly. He was on our driveway when suddenly there was a group of men arguing and one pulled out a gun and tried to shoot another person. My husband was shot instead and died immediately. I was on my way home for dinner.

I am 35 years old and we were planning to have a child this year. He was my soul mate and I never imagined having to live without him. I met him when I was 18. I cannot breathe without him. It is so dark. my heart hurts and I can't see what the next hour will bring.

You have to know he is watching you and everything you do is a reflection of your time together.

I feel like it is too fresh to even know who I am without him.