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Permalink Reply by Louise on December 31, 2016 at 1:18pm

Hi shining light

I have felt like this for every "landmark", 1 month, 2 months & 3 months just yesterday. It doesn't seem to get easier, worse actually, particularly just having gone through Christmas & with New Year. I can't even begin to imagine how it feels at 1 year. I'm so sorry you lost your husband and you're in such pain. As to "what now?", if you figure it out, let me know. It sounds somewhat pathetic and is probably little comfort to you, but sending you virtual hugs xxx

Permalink Reply by ShingingLight1967 on January 1, 2017 at 12:16pm

Sending you hugs as well Louise. 

Permalink Reply by Mel Royer on December 31, 2016 at 1:27pm

New Years Day was a special day for Nancy and me. We would listen to/view the annual New Years Day concert from Vienna. I tried to do it alone last year, I really did but I couldn't do it. I miss Nancy now with a depth of pain I never fathomed I could. It is much  deeper than it ever has been and I too miss my best friend and soul mate in a way I never thought I would, after nearly 2 years. This loneliness is unending and I can only hope that nature will take it's course quicker than it otherwise might and out me to sleep to awaken in the presence of the most perfect mate I could ever imagine. My mate....now. My condolences to you shining light and may the presence of God provide us all with some rest and  a renewed hope for the year to come.

Permalink Reply by Fran on December 31, 2016 at 4:08pm

It's been just over 2 years and I still cringe at "landmarks". That first year is such a fog. You do what you have to because you have to...then comes the second year when you realize this is it. This is what my life is regardless of what I want and you just continue to plod along, passing more milestones. Only now you continue without the "support" of friends and family because their life goes on and "so should you"(their comment, not mine). Just take it a day at a time. Let yourself be sad but also let yourself find something that can bring you a little joy.

Permalink Reply by ShingingLight1967 on January 1, 2017 at 12:20pm

Fran:

The plodding along is the perfect way to put it.  And I know what you speak of when it comes to doing this without the support because I believe they all think I should be moving on.

What they dont seem to understand is while they all have moved on to their lives, with their families and loved ones, I will forever live this.  It will forever be tied to me and the worst part is that it will forever be tied to a time of year that used to bring me so much joy.

So..  we soldier on... and find new and different traditions that will bring us some comfort. 

Hugs