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Permalink Reply by George H on January 27, 2016 at 6:55pm

I know just how you feel my wife of 37 years passed 2/24/15

Permalink Reply by bluebird on January 27, 2016 at 8:11pm

I am sorry for your loss.  I know how it is -- my husband and I were together for nearly 13 years, and he died literally one week to the day after our wedding. I never got to check off "married" on any forms; I went right from "single" to "widowed".  We never got to celebrate even one wedding anniversary -- hell, not even one month of being married, or one week, since he died that afternoon. And now I am alone, and I hate life. I love him SO much, and I miss him SO much, and all I want is to be with him again. It's the big things, like the future we should have had and the kids we should have had, but also all the small things like, as you said, the good night kiss, or cuddling up to sleep, or sharing a meal, or talking.

I do know what you mean. Many of the people on this site do, unfortunately for all of us. I'm sorry you are in this situation too.

Permalink Reply by Kirk Miller on January 28, 2016 at 6:20pm

    That was way to fast. How long have you been alone. 

Permalink Reply by bluebird on January 28, 2016 at 8:57pm

Three years.

Permalink Reply by Jane Kesler on January 28, 2016 at 9:39am

Hi Kirk,

Yes, know what you mean.  The emptiness makes you feel hollow.  My hubby's been gone 3 years, and I still have a few bad days.  No one can take the love out of your heart.  Remember the good times.  I had to give up a camper we loved.    JK

Permalink Reply by Kirk Miller on January 28, 2016 at 6:16pm

 Hi Jane                       3 years thats a long time but i bet some times it doesnt seem that long.. I at 4 months. Sometime it seems like a week. I remember the good times some times it hurts. I moved into our cabin that wasnt do before she passed. I built it because she had M.S. for 16 before she got cancer. She loved watching it being built. Its all handicap accessible. Now i live here with our 3 dogs in the woods surrounding.  thanks for the chat  K.M.

Permalink Reply by Fran on January 29, 2016 at 2:57pm

I, too, can relate. My husband died Nov of 2014 after fighting lung cancer diagnosed earlier that year. We had just bought 40 acres of hunting land that we had thought about building on when we retired. Now it sits...a 5 hour drive that I just don't have the will to do anymore. We had just celebrated our 27th anniversary. Not a day goes by that I don't miss the ability to just talk with him...to bounce ideas and comments off of...talking to other relatives (incl. adult children) and friends just doesn't match up.