I AM STILL MARRIED AND AM REFUSE TO BE A WIDOW.

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Permalink Reply by ShingingLight1967 on November 23, 2016 at 10:52pm

I got a new tattoo in September, right before my husband's birthday to honor him. I think he would have liked it. I hope he likes it.

The joke is that the my left side is the memorial site. It's not funny because, it's so true.  I added his tattoo to the tat that honors my Mom and Dad.  So it all flows together.

I wish it hurt more.  It didnt hurt very much, and I wanted the pain to help take away the pain I have from missing my husband.

I have two more I am getting for him.  Our wedding date with an infinity sign next to it on my wrist and the words "My Immortal" which was a song played at our wedding.  Not sure where yet. 

Permalink Reply by CJ Moore on November 18, 2016 at 9:54am

That design is beautiful! I wear mine and my husband's on a chain around my neck because I like them to be touching each other. I also wear a three-band (costume jewelry) ring on my left hand to symbolize our family unit ...Me, My Husband and Our Son. I will never not wear a ring because I will never not be married to my husband. Except for my wedding ring and now his and the chain they are on are costume jewelry because I am constantly taking my earrings and rings off and losing them.

Permalink Reply by bluebird on November 23, 2016 at 10:40pm

Michelle,

I agree. People who say crap like that have no idea what hell this is.  

Some people want to and are able to "move on", fall in love again, maybe get married again, etc.  For other people, including me, nothing like that is either wanted or possible.  I will always be married to my husband; he will always be my husband, and I will always be his wife.  I will never "date", will never have another relationship, etc. 

Sure, you could get married again, but if that isn't something you want, then there would be no point, and it wouldn't be fair to your new spouse/partner.  Most of the people who say things like that are just trying to be helpful and make you feel better, but they really don't have any fucking clue what this is like.  I'm sorry you are experiencing this hell, too.

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