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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Lost Dad to Lung Cancer

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Comment by Kim Phillips on January 23, 2013 at 7:05pm

I am starting to have dreams about my loved one but the dreams are about me not being able to find her.  These dreams are upsetting b/c it is like losing her all over again.  has anyone else had these kinds of dreams?

Comment by Rayn Cumiskey on January 22, 2013 at 5:28pm

Thank you for your kind words Mary.  I really appreciate them.

Comment by Mary M. on January 22, 2013 at 1:27pm

Ann, sometimes its hard to understand the reason we are left behind, but what is helping me move forward each day is the knowledge that one day I will see my husband again.  I still feel his presence sometimes so I know he is watching over me and that gives me some comfort.  Getting involved in activities with others has also helped, especially on those days I feel lost and inadequate.   Hugs & prayers.

Comment by Mary M. on January 22, 2013 at 1:24pm

Rayn, I am sorry for your loss.   Not being able to say goodbye to a loved one because of distance or health issues has to be really hard.  Please know that my heart and prayers go out to you as you come to terms with your loss.  

Comment by Rayn Cumiskey on January 21, 2013 at 11:23pm

On January 13th, I lost one of my dearest friends to breast cancer.  My father died of liver cancer when I was 28 and my brother died of Lupus when he was only 45.  

I suffer from 2 autoimmune diseases that leave me quite debilitated and unable to travel.  My friend lives 3 hours away from me.  She fought it for 6 years.  When I got the news that she was in her last days, my chest felt hollowed out, as if my heart had just disappeared.  I couldn't breathe properly up until a few days ago.  Although we kept in touch and saw each other when one of us could get around during those years, I was devastated because I didn't get a chance to hug her one more time or hold her hand and say our goodbye's.  I'm still in shock even though I knew she could leave us at any moment.  Loosing her has left a deep emptiness.

Comment by Ann on January 21, 2013 at 10:18pm

I miss my mom more than ever.  I really do feel like I'm condemned to a prison sentence, waiting on Earth without her, waiting to be with her again.  

Comment by Mary M. on January 2, 2013 at 10:09am

Kim, sorry I cannot really relate .. but I am sure its a part of the grieving process.  There has to come a time when our emotions go into overdrive and we feel numb.  

Comment by Kim Phillips on January 2, 2013 at 8:53am

Hi,  it was really odd.  I have had a hard time with the loss of my loved one who passed in For some reason over Christmas and New Years, I haven't cried or even been upset.  Not sure why.  I think I am going through a stage of being numb.  Has anyone else been through this?

Comment by Mary M. on January 1, 2013 at 8:41pm

Angel, In my grief counselling we were told that each of us grieves differently, and for different lengths of times.  I know it must be hard for our children to see us hurting.  I know as a parent it is hard for me to see my children hurting in any way, I am sure it would be the same for them watching a parent go through pain and feel helpless to take it away.   Hugs & Blessings to all.  

Comment by Angel on January 1, 2013 at 5:55pm

I had some coupons that expired in Kohls today so I decided to take down my tree and decorations which I cried through...showered and went to kohls and had to run out of the store because all the families and couples were killing me and making me feel more alone...I was on my way to my oldest daughter's house for dinner and I called my youngest and asked if she minded talking to me for the 5 minute ride..(I know driving on the phone is dangerous..but my mood was more dangerous)......she was nasty to me...told me to talk to my psychologist who I see Thursday becase this is ridiculous now that after 2 years I am crying everyday...I don't know why I'm worse now than I was a year ago....but I am..she apologized...but really made me feel like crap and like a burden...she can't handle my pain..I can see that...but I needed someone for a 3 minute ride....so now I feel even more alone...I had no problem shopping or seeing couples before ....today it tore my heart out...something new everyday lately...it will be 2 years on March 1....after 3 1/2 years of watching him die....I hate cancer..

 

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